Does my husband have the right to tell me what I can and can’t do with my body?

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Me and my husband have been having marital problems for over a year now, we have two small children together. lately he’s been getting more controlling in my opinion. Some examples are telling where and what I’m allowed to get tattooed ( I love tattoos ) , telling me what I can’t wear. And the other day told me that I’m working out too much and look “buff” and “that’s not sexy, or attractive “ and then he forbid me from building a 6 pack. It’s just getting to the point that it’s making me feel like he views me as “his possession” . Idk anymore 😥

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I mean he obviously has a right to voice his opinions but within reason and he actually can't stop you from doing anything.

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Ew. Tell him to get the fuck over himself. You’re not his property.

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He can voice his opinion all day long but at the end of the day it’s up to you on what you want to do. He married you, didn’t get guardianship of you.

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Not unless you're unconscious in an emergency, like at the hospital. 
Yelling you what to wear, fuck no

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I've shared my opinions with my husband about some of his tattoos that aren't really my favorite, but he loved them so got them anyway. They're still not my favorite but I completely respect that it's his body and his choice.

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Can I ask you a question? Would he be ok if you told him things like:
> He’s not allowed to miss a day shaving, ever, because you don’t like facial hair and don’t care if his skin is sore
> He’s not allowed to play on the PS4 while you’re at home because you want his attention after you’ve been at work
> You don’t want him to wear jogging bottoms any more because you like his backside much better in jeans, especially when he wears the shirt and jacket you bought him for Christmas too
Those are example from me and my husband - my husband doesn’t ever try to control what I do or wear, etc but there are things he doesn’t like - he doesn’t like my hair short and prefers it long. But he didn’t try to stop me cutting it a while ago when I fancied a change. It’s my hair, not his.
There are things with him I don’t like as well, I just gave you 3 examples. Like I hate facial hair - ok on some guys it looks nice but it’s more from an “I have very sensitive skin around my mouth and kissing you feels like being sand-blasted” perspective. But I would never tell him he HAS to shave despite the fact it makes his skin dry and sore to do so every day... 
He can give you his opinion but he needs to realise it’s an opinion ONLY. He does not own you or have a right to control what you do/ don’t do.

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I mean my husband asks my opinions on his beard and loves tattoos too. I tell him what I’m thinking and that I’d prefer xyz but I don’t say it out of no where.
The gym this is ridiculous, doesn’t he want you to stay healthy? Like why discourage it

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I mean yes he can have a say in certain situations and obviously can have his opinions but at the end of the day it’s your body and you can do what you want with it, you just have to accept the fact that certain choices you make might cause fights

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He has the right to voice his opinion but at the end of the day it's your body and no one can tell you what to do with it. You want a tattoo and that's something that's a permanent piece of art on your body. So therefore that needs to be your decision not his. You are working out for you not him. You make your body look the way you find it attractive to you.  You want a 6 pack? Girl get yourself those abs. Its YOUR BODY. Theres a difference between voicing his opinions and being controlling. Right now, hes being controlling.

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He has a right to voice an opinion but ultimately he shouldn’t be able to tell you what to do or control you at all.

Does my husband have the right to tell me what I can and can’t do with my body?

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