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Venting...

All of my family knows by now that my husband and I have been trying for our first for over 4 years.. we have tried literally everything, even

twice and still no baby.. we fostered a baby and our hearts were broken when she got placed back with her parents. We knew this was the goal, but weren’t prepared for that heart break when it finally did happen. People always say “why don’t you adopt?” People don’t understand how hard that truly is to do... we can’t go through that pain again. When we first started talking about having kids, we looked into adoption, but it’s much more complicated and more expensive than people think. I think if we did go down that route again, it would have to be someone asking me to adopt their baby.

Anyways, we have distanced ourselves from family a few times because things get said and we have wanted to refrain from drama and unwanted opinions from certain family members. This weekend, we were invited to come out to my in laws home to swim and we decided to go since it has been almost a year since we’ve been out there.. on the drive out, I “joked” to my husband that it had been so long since I’ve seen his step sister that I bet she was pregnant for the 4th time. (She has 3 kids ranging from 15-2 that she doesn’t take care of already. In 34 years that she has been alive, she has never lived on her own or done anything good for herself. Her and her boyfriend don’t even live together because he lives with his ex😳) first thing said when I walked into the house by her was “guess what!? You’re gonna be an aunt again! I’m pregnant!” And then she started asking me if I was still trying and that I needed to “stop trying and it will happen” 🙄 (been there, done that. Pretty sure if

didn’t even work, nothing she says will) she also started complaining, saying “this baby better be cute since he has a different daddy”

My husband told me that she said, “it’s going to be like it’s his first kid.” My husband was confused because he has two kids already so he was like, “what?..” she said “oh well he was f*cked up with his first two so this will be the first one he’s actually there for. He’s excited.” Wtf.

I’m done with this week. Sorry for the rant, I just really needed to vent.

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