I’m a very very recent stepmommy, to two angels aged 9 and 11. This is (only) the second weekend that they stay full time with me and their dad but I don’t see any negative reaction from them, we have fun, laugh and they act like normal kids as far as I can see.

Their mom is a very bossy person that hasn’t yet accepted that she and my OH are separated, in fact the divorce itself isn’t out yet but they signed all the paperwork and been living apart for almost half a year. I moved in with him a little less than two months ago, and even though I understand her reaction to not letting me seeing or staying with the kids at first, I tried to be the most respectful and kind with her (despite her being rude and disrespectful towards me) and we are slowly “conquering” time with the kids.

I’m still not allowed to participate in any of the (many) activities that they are involved, and I feel so discouraged and left out because I want to be there and support them as much as possible. I know this must sound weird, but I feel so affectionate towards them - they are so sweet and nice. My OH has been an angel, but there’s only so much he can do, and this “being left out” has been taking its toll on me, I feel depressed and end up being silent and crying throughout the day. Any advice on how to deal with such a situation? Thank you ❤️