So my boyfriend and I have been together 3 and a half years and obviously I’m anxious about a proposal and FINALLY taking this thing to the next level.

We talk about the future and we’re both on the same page, but the longer we’re together the more anxious I become.

He hardly talks about an engagement itself because he says he doesn’t want to give anything away and that it’s something he doesn’t want me to expect even slightly so instead he just doesn’t say much of anything. The only thing I know is that he was going to purchase a ring back in February but we had just gotten a new puppy and then right after that he had to unexpectedly get a new vehicle. So, as always, money is tight. Which I understand but I also feel like that’s always going to be an excuse that stands in the way of it ever happening. He says he doesn’t want to settle and wants to get something he knows I’ll like but also something he likes, which I also understand.

But the more I see those around my getting engaged the more I become irritated and questioning of why? Why am I still here waiting but everyone else has it happening for them. And then I think: what am I doing wrong? We’ve been together for a decent amount of time and the other people...not even half the time my boyfriend and I have been together.

I know that sounds crazy and maybe even a little selfish, but I can’t help but be excited, anxious, and hopeful that it’s going to happen for us too sooner rather than later.

I guess I become hopeless at times too when I continuously see others post about becoming engaged.

Anyone else understand? Or any advice to help? 🤦🏼‍♀️