My husband is like a different person.

We have been together for 10 years, married for almost 2. We were tying to get pregnant for 1 1/2 years then finallly got pregnant and was so excited. My husband was so sweet, generous, caring, cautious about my health, attentive and all that good stuff. Misscarried a few weeks later. We were devastated. Doctor cleared us 2 months later to start trying again and we got pregnant almost right away. Now, my husband has been doing everything but spending time with me. He’s missed family birthdays, my band gigs, spent no time with me on my birthday (which was awful this year). He works on projects between our house and our Lakehouse. Projects that take hours to do and instead of calling it quits at a certain time in the night to come home for dinner and be with his pregnant wife, he will stay the night at the lake and leave me hole by myself, he will work outdoors at home until 1:00am and the worst part about all this is his drinking. He drinks whisky on the rocks while working on these projects so every night I’ve been coming home from work to a drunk husband who spends no time with me. Doesn’t ask how I’m feeling, doesn’t offer to do anything for me. Instead, he starts verbally abusing and downgrading me. Calls me lazy and says I’m using my pregnancy as an excuse to not do anything (which I have done so much around both houses, things i probably shouldn’t be doing pregnant, ontop of working full time). Says my job isn’t tough and “must be nice to only work 6 hours a day” when usually I work 8 or more. I’m just so upset. I haven been feeling good, my body hurts and aches and I’m so tired all the time I have no energy. I’ve asked him repeatedly to slow down the drinking because I don’t like how he acts or smells and I just need him to be supportive of me right now and he hasn’t. If anything he’s drinking more than he ever has. I’ve been so unhappy and I’m having a hard time falling in love with this baby because I’m just seeing what type of husband and father he’s going to be which is NOT good. We’ve been nonstop arguing and I’m so unhappy I just don’t know what to do. I’m 11 weeks pregnant today. I miss my loving, awesome husband and I just wanna know what happened. Any kind of words would be good right now. I’ve been contemplating staying somewhere else for a little while. I’m in a very toxic environment, I’m stressed and unhappy and I just can’t deal with this anymore.