I’ve been best friends with a girl friend for about 7 years. We met in high school and have been through so much together, including as bridesmaids in each other’s weddings (she was my maid of honor). She was the second person I called when I miscarried, and we’ve always been there for each other.

Anyway, the past two years she has become incredibly shallow and just... different. She married this guy who is rich and had been crushing on her for years, but who she said she would never marry due to a lack of morals. Anyway, we had a huge fallout last summer due to her blowing things up. She tried to pop a pimple on my face in front of 10 of our friends and after I told her to stop, I swore and yelled at her. She got super offended and ignored me the next two weeks, even after I went up to her to apologize for swearing. She also tried to turn all of our friends against us by trash talking me and my husband. She eventually came to talk to me, never apologized for it, but I’m not a confrontational person and I just let it go.

After that, our relationship was never the same. She and I could hang but I always felt so uncomfortable and would get anxious spending time with her. She only wanted to talk about other people or complain about our bodies together (she’s a model so 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️). Whenever I’m with her, I feel so insecure and I come home and cry over things that I don’t like about myself. I know that that’s something I struggle with, but she’s the only person in my life that brings that out in me.

I started “ghosting” her after I realized all these things. I have defended her nonstop for the years and the way she’s treated me/others, even though people (ie. my husband and my mom) have told me to distance myself. She called twice to hang out, and I was genuinely busy, but I never made an effort to be with her. She’s a very confrontational person and I don’t want to have the talk where I tell her that my issues lie with her as a person, and not an event or whatever that could be fixed.

Am I wrong to distance myself? Our lives have been so connected for years but I can’t be around her without feeling incredibly anxious and self-conscious. She’s changed, I’ve changed, and we’ve both grown in opposite directions. I just don’t think it’s worth it to have a big whole “break up” talk... I still like all her posts and whatnot, but I just don’t want to be her close friend anymore. The time without her has been so amazing and I feel beautiful and confident and smart, and I never feel that with her. She’s also trashed my own husband to me, and treats him very disdainfully.