So we have been married for a year and a half now. I love sex and have a healthy sex drive. My husband does NOT. He just confided in me the other night... sex makes him feel guilty and ashamed that is why he never pursues it. I am struggling so much right now. I don't know what to do. HOW do I help him. He wants to be able to have sex without feeling guilty. We are married and did not do anything before marriage. we are not into any kinky type stuff. I just want to be able to have sex with my husband to feel the close bond and the love. I can't even touch below his waist without making him feel bad. Has anyone dealt with this??? PLEASE HELP!!! PLEASE GIVE ME HOPE.

We were going to talk to a counselor but he has since shut that down. He is not ready to talk to anyone about it. I dont know what to do. We are 22 and 21. Both raised in Christians homes and still hold that belief. He was not sheltered growing up. Both virgins till marriage. I am a very touchy person. That is how I show and feel love. So I NEED his touch. BUT I don't want to push him or make him feel bad. I am trying to not touch him till he is ready but I don't know how long I can last. I don't want to be abusive or anything like that. So i have kept my hands off him completely. I feel so horrible and dirty now because I don't know if,anytime we have been intimate in the past, if he has actually wanted it or if he was just trying to please me. I don't want to make this about me or make him feel bad. I just need help understand and figuring out what to do.

He has no interest in porn or manstrabation. He never has.

**** IF YOU ARE GOING TO TELL ME TO LEAVE HIM. DON'T WASTE YOUR TIME. I will live without sex or touch or learn to feel love some other way before I leave him. I promised till DEATH SEPARATES US and will keep that promise.

***** NO BASHING MY BELIEFS EITHER. YOUR COMMENT WILL BE DELETED. He was not raised to fear sex or be ashamed of it. It was a normal dinner table type conversation in his house. He knew about all about it early on and still openly jokes about it all the time.

Edit for the comments.

He said the guilt is related to sex and me touching him only. He can touch and look at me no problem.