Can’t orgasm anymore...?

Question

I’m suddenly having a very hard time orgasming either during sex or from masturbation.   Ive been very sexually active for the past couple years and have usually been able to orgasm frequently, but I feel like I’ve somehow killed the nerves to be able to orgasm easily.   I have an excellent partner who definitely knows how to get me off, but it seems like nothing works now.  Help!!

Answer

Try taking a break from sex/masturbation for a while. Like starve yourself for stimulation and avoid/discontinue any erotica/porn etc for a time. Then try again. For some people it only takes a few days, some people a little bit longer. You're probably just a bit desensitized to the stimulation. Also if you take a break, when you start again, start everything really slow and teasingly and maybe even edge/deny yourself to try to heighten sensations. You could also look up products on your favorite toy site- many adult toy companies carry products like jellies or creams that are infused with stuff that will make your clit more sensitive and receptive to very little stimulation. I have tried one before, just clit sensitizer jell, it came in a tiny lipgloss size container and lasted over a year because to use it you only needed a single drop at a time and you'd be gushing all day. Products like that will often use either  peppermint extract to make that very sensitive skin cool or pepper extract to make it extra warm. Your body isn't used to the suddenly new sensation of peppermint or pepper oil on such a tiny sensitive bud of nerves that it revs up the intensity of anything you do. It's not my favorite thing but it was fun to try a couple times.

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Depending on what you're willing to try, sometimes using things like trying clamps- nipple clamps or clit/labia clamps help rev up your sensitivity to stimulation again too. If you think about trying such a thing, make sure you read up on how to use the specific kind of clamps you try properly before you use them. But what toys like clamps can do is, you tease the nipple up a bit or tease labia/clit some to sort of start to wake them to the sensation- then clamp them and first you have the odd sensation of the clamps squeezing your nipples, clit or labia drawing your attention to that spot. Then a very short amount of time after you have clamped clit/labia/nipple/what have you, you remove the clamps. While "insert body part here" was briefly clamped, the clamps restricted blood flow to the area and when you remove the clamps, the blood comes rushing back to the area again, bringing a super heightened sensation back to the spot. Just make certain if you are not used to playing with clamps you are absolutely not leaving clamps on skin for very long at all. You can damage skin, nerves or a body part if you leave things clamped for long.

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If you're interested, and again Depending on what you're willing to try there is also options like E-stim toys... If you know what a tens unit is there is a wide range of sex toys based on what a tens unit does. Basically the world of E-stim type toys are a range of toys that can shock/zap a little bit. You can find specific toys only meant to deliver a small electric tingle/tickle, or a little bit more. Some toys come in the form of pads that attach to a unit with a range of intensity settings and some toys have like metallic vagina/urethral probes, bullet/egg vibe attachments but they're all made to deliver a shock in some way in order to bring more sensation/more intense sensation back to the area being shocked. Some men can train themselves to last longer in bed using e stim toys, sometimes vaginal estim toys can force the contractions that cause female orgasm for a different experience. There are a lot of different ways to use e stim toys. Just make sure, if you ever consider trying anything like that that it is meant for use as an adult toy and that it's body safe and you're able to replace or clean it and follow any directions about how to use any toy like that you may get. Some people get very squemish at concept of Electro Stim toys but some learn that it can rev up or bring back/intensify sensations really well too.

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