Anyone else dealing with this???

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So my S/O doesn’t work.. I do tho. he has a source of income tho he pays our rent and I pay side bills!! When he was working I would wash his clothes ( I do that any way) iron them cook him dinner when he is off! But lately I come home HE is gone no dinner, no clean work uniforms for me NOTHING!! No foot rubs, no hot bath absolutely nothing! Should I be offended?? I mean I DO GO OUT AND WORK! I have to come home wash,dry clothes and cook ! Please let me know ur opinions. Also we been together for 7 /8 years! No kids together I do have two kids from previous relationship!

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Off topic what does he do that he doesn’t have to go t work but still gets money....asking for myself please and thank you 😂😂

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When my husband wasn’t working temporarily, he would cook and clean for us more so I wouldn’t have to worry about it, which I thought was very fair but I never would have expected foot rubs or hot baths (unless I asked). He should definitely be contributing more.

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If he's not going out and working, he should definitely be doing the domestic labor. There's no reason he shouldn't be physically contributing to the house he lives in.

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I had this problem at the beginning of my relationship and it almost broke us up.... it’s hard to justify breaking up because he was paying all his bills but I was like hey you don’t do shit all day and I work my ass off... then you expect me to take care of you when you have the free time ...we had a serious conversation....he ended up helping out and then eventually opened his own business.... so I took back all the responsibility’s of the inside of the house (he does all the outside) but he still cooks sometimes and pays all the bills so I can’t complain.... here we are 11 years later... he’s a good man and he has his flaws but everyone does.... his good quality definitely outweigh the bad...it’s wether you can live with it or not...I’d have a conversation and then decide if your happy with the outcome.... of not don’t waste anymore time

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His job while you work is to cook and clean at the very least. If he's not out busting his ass, then he needs to be taking care of the home. That's pure laziness. He doesn't need to rub your feet or draw you a bath, you're grown you can do those things. But expecting him to pick up at home is completely reasonable and needs to be done. You shouldn't have to do everything. Because he would throw fits if the situation was flipped. That's just how men are. Not all. But a lot.

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Did you ever ask him to do any of those things? You are a nurturer naturally being that you are a mom, he may not think anything of it.

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Since my husband became unemployed he does a majority of the housework: dishes, laundry, vacuuming ect.
But I still do all the cooking and put away my own clothes. He didn't do any of this by choice, I had to ask: he said he didn't even think about that stuff because it was always taken care of.

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I don’t think he should be required to do those things for you unless you’ve agreed on those expectations based on the work situation.  I’ve never expected anyone to draw a hot bath for me or rub my feet because I work, that part seems like a little much to me.
Talk to him about each of your needs/ how you feel housework should be divided and go from there. Men don’t always notice all the things we do/ realize they can do them too.

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I would say talk to him about it if you did all the house work, and cooking  when you weren't working then he should do it now that he isn't working a relationship is team work not one person pulls all the weight !

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Absolutely none of those things are requirements out of a relationship. It’s nice when my SO washes my clothes, but it’s not necessary. He certainly never runs a bath for me 😂😂 I’d be annoyed if he was gone all day and the house was a pigsty, but I don’t expect someone else to do MY laundry. It’s great that you did it but it really shouldn’t be an expectation

Anyone else dealing with this???

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