I need a little bit of help! (VERY LONG)

Ok. Some backstory may be important.

So I realized I was into this guy a while ago and panicked because. Umm. Hi. He’s way out of my league. So in a panic, I texted his best friend who I’d been talking to a little bit beforehand.

So skip about a month and this guy I like, let’s call him Chris, ends up figuring out Im into him. At this point I’d given up and would happily accept being friends with him. On top of that, I’d started crushing on his friend who was helping me, well call him Ethan. So Chris talked to me and now we’re good friends.

But! This issue is that I am now into Ethan and he has a girlfriend. Ethan and I are very very close, he always tells me about family problems, about his previous alcoholism and drug addiction (I can relate with that since I got hooked on sleeping meds about a year ago. Luckily I’ve recovered now!) and so has he. But he also tells me about his relationship issues.

This girl he’s dating likes to go out, get drunk and make out with other guys. Unfortunately every time she gets drunk she has a panic attack and everyone has to stop what they’re doing to help her. It’s not a nice cycle and he refuses to go with her to parties anymore

In any case, this weekend she went to a party while Ethan and I went to dinner to talk heart-to-heart. She wouldn’t stop trying to talk to him and he ignored her mostly because she was drunk and because I was talking to him about my mental health. So after dinner he picks up the phone and she’s with a guy who she’s had a thing with while her and Ethan were dating. So she drunkenly says ‘We should break up.’ And hangs up.

Now Ethan wasn’t particularly upset. He told me it’s happened before and he was already considering ending it. I actually cried on his behalf because I could feel the pain of if someone had done that to me. In any case, she showed up at someone’s little birthday get together stoned and drunk. So Ethan, another friend and I kept taking walks to try to ignore her since she was ignoring Ethan. In the end we went back to my place and chilled. She kept calling him and he eventually picked up. She was freaking out etc etc. Ethan went home and tried to call her back but she now refused to talk to him.

Today I actually took the tram with Ethan to go to her house so that he could talk to her. I didn’t come in but I’m now waiting to hear what happened and I’m stressed.

During all of this, I do have feelings for Ethan but I need to ignore them until he sorts everything out. I’m his only support right now but I’m terrified my feelings will get in the way. I obviously wouldn’t ask him out right away because he needs time to process. But if anyone has some similar experiences and/ or advice they would be much appreciated during this stressful time!!

Thanks for reading my ridiculously long post.