I don’t know what to do

I need to vent... I’m heartbroken and may be completely out of my mind but I need someone to vent to... not long ago I found out my husband had lied to me for 5 years about how he smokes pot. Not everyone thinks it’s a big deal, but I don’t care to be around illegal things and I really don’t like being lied to or be with a man who has to lie on everything to get a job. I married this dude and had a kid with him and everything then found how he has been lying to me. But when I get upset about it, it’s my fault. Or I’m being stupid. Today we were supposed to have people over. Then he wanted to tell me it was so they could try his pot vape. With BABIES at MY house. And these people know how I am too. I told him I didn’t want anyone smoking anything at my house and he told me basically “too bad I’m gonna get high regardless of what you say fuck you”. So I went and got my son, packed our clothes, and went to my parents house who are out of town. He comes and says he just wants to see his son but once I let him in, he didn’t even look at him, he went straight and grabbed my phone and started for my car keys and my sons diaper bag and said he’s taking his stuff back and yelled at me “see what you’re gonna do now without MY phone”. (I work too but he insists he bought everything I have). I feel he’s becoming mentally and emotionally abusive I’m having to force myself to change my beliefs to accommodate him so he can do what he wants. I’m supposed to be okay with everything he does and how he talks to me and threatens to take everything from me. 😭😭😭