Sexless pregnancy anyone?

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Have any of you gone through a whole pregnancy without having sex with your husband?? I am five months pregnant right now and my husband and I have not had sex since we conceived🙈 I have been so incredibly turned off by any physical contact/affection. And my husband is not the assertive type. He does not initiate. Which annoys the crap out of me too, because he then gets crabby and complains to me for not having sex with him/being the one initiating it when he wants it. And I definitely don’t want to initiate anything right now, and I also cannot read his mind🤷🏻‍♀️ idk. I am fine with a sexless pregnancy 😂 but men are clearly wired different than women. Anyone relate? Any advice?

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If I didn’t have sex with my husband I would live in a miserable household.😂
If I absolutely don’t want it then he’s understanding, but the longest we’ve gone without having sex since I’ve been pregnant this go around has been a little over a week.

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Wow, I can't imagine going that long without having sex with my husband! We did do it much less frequently during my really bad sickness weeks (weeks 8-17), but really overall we just got better at timing it between episodes haha. I would say we still have had sex about once a week on average this pregnancy, which is about half of what we did pre-pregnancy. The longest we have gone without sex was 2 weeks, and that was because I was put on pelvic rest for a week but we were nervous so waited an extra week. If anything, I crave intimacy more with my husband during pregnancy, even if it is more just cuddling and kissing, those things just often lead to sex in our case haha.
Honestly, if you are happy with no sex then there's nothing wrong with it. For me, however, I don't always feel super in the mood in advance from feeling uncomfortable, but once we start kissing and cuddling my uncomfortableness goes away and I enjoy it. We have had to overcome a bit of awkwardness from my growing belly, but it's been worth it.

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You could try other ways to feel close and intimate with eachother without having the expectation of sex.
Massage is a great way to feel close. Try cuddling up on the couch. Hold hands more. Make it a point to indulge in at least one looong hug a day; I'm talking like 20 seconds.
Try to remember that everyone shows and prefers to receive love differently. (This is called love language)
Ask yourself what makes you feel the most loved; is it physical, emotional/mental, spending quality time, or more helpful/supportive gestures?
I'm guessing that your man prefers physical closeness as a way to feel close and important to you. This is really common for men. Very often people aren't completely aware of their own preferd love language and don't really feel comfortable communicating their valid needs.
Google love langauge and read up a little bit. 
Pregnancy is a very introspective and personal time for women and sometimes their partners can feel a little left out or "neglected". But don't worry or feel bad; not wanting sex right now is totally normal! 
Maybe just try and find something else that makes you two feel connected and loved.
Hope this can help! Best wishes! 😀

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We’ve only done it about 3x this pregnancy, I feel terrible about it and my husband is very pushy but I’m just not in the mood, then when we do I’m so uncomfortable

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My desire goes up and down. We have sex about once every other week. The good thing is my hubby will hint at it if it’s been too long. Then we do. As long as the baby is safe I’m willing to go for it even if I’m not in the mood. I always end up enjoying it once we start and I do know it’s important to my husband as far as expressing love and intimacy.

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Oh man I feel the same! Before I was pregnant, I wanted it all the time. We had an amazing sex life. My libido is absolutely shot. I have days where I feel more enthusiastic about it and I try to get myself in the mood for it. And honestly, I could take it or leave it when I'm more interested in it. For the sake of my relationship, I do try to get in the mood. There are techniques and bonding methods that we use; such as open communication, eye-contact, etc. I love my husband and even though my sex drive has changed, that fact doesn't. He needs to know I am still capable of intimacy and affection. I try to put myself in his shoes. Constantly wanting it and essentially feeling rejected even when he know it's not about him. It's kind of isolating and lonely.

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We have sex twice a week. It’s not much but enough for him. I personally rather not sometimes I just feel fat BUT it’s okay😂 I love being with him it’s just the beginning I dread but after it’s fine😂

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Idgaf how he feels at the moment and I'm having a sexless pregnancy because of placenta previa, I'm obviously in the mood for it and my partner wants it more than anything; but the safety of my baby and me is more important than an orgasm

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We have sex 2-3 times a week and my husband complains that's not enough lol.
I would just be careful. My first marriage  went through a dry spell and after that I lost all attraction to him. He didn't initiate it and it was annoying and I got to the point where I didn't care enough to do it myself anymore so we went 3 years without sleeping together. Once you lose that intimacy you drift apart and it's hard to recover.

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Definitely been there before my last two pregnancy lol and my husband the same way.  If  he don’t initiate sex it I’m damn sure not 🤦🏾‍♀️🤣.  However,  this pregnancy which is our last we been rocking and rolling 🙊🙈.

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