How did you get over gender disappointment?

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The guilt that I’m feeling at 40 weeks pregnant is awful! Anyone have any tips or stories on what helped them get over their gender disappointment?
(Second son. Last child)
Please don’t tell me I can “try for a girl, or just be happy that he’s healthy.” I’ve heard it all plenty. Thank you 🙏🏻🙏🏻

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Honestly I don't think anyone "gets over it" as much as they just come to love their little one for exactly who they are once they're here. Meeting that sweet little soul somehow helps the whole process. Doesn't mean that you were wrong in wanting a girl or that it's something to dismiss like it's nothing when clearly you feel differently right now.
Your feelings are valid, and it's okay to be disappointed. But I'm willing to bet your second son is exactly what your family needs, and I hope you feel that way too once he's here 🧡

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If it makes you feel any better I am in the same boat. It does comfort me to see my first born and how much I love him to feel I will probably love the new little guy just as much and will get over this disappointment I have. But yes, I let myself believe and sometimes feel bad that I will not have a daughter of my own and it’s okay to feel down about it. Let yourself go through the emotional rather than telling yourself boys are easier or any other lame thing to ignore feelings you know. Or try for another and what if that’s a boy!? So yeh, once We meet the babies it might slowly feel better I think. 
Hope this helps!

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I’m having my third boy and last child. At almost 38 weeks, I haven’t even found any names I like because I’m so disappointed. Of course I will adore him, but it’s hard to be excited and not overwhelmed. No advice, just feeling your pain.

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I felt the same when I found out I wasn’t having a boy. I knew I would be disappointed so I chose to find out quite early in the pregnancy. I always saw my self as a mother of boys turns out not the case. It took me right until the end, I’m being induced tomorrow to come round to it if I’m honest. I also felt terrible guilt as I know my husband and father would of loved a son/grandson. Now as I sit here in Baby Eve (like Christmas Eve 🤣). With a nursery that’s more pink then I thought I could cope with and a dresser full of the cutest girls clothes. I can not wait to met my little lady. When your baby gets here you’ll love them and what your feeling is normal xx

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Go to counseling. Simple as that. You will need an unbiased support outside of friends and family that can help you walk through this.

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I totally get it! I'm pregnant with my 5th...all boys! I cried a few times, but eventually felt like, even though this isn't what I planned when I started having kids, I'll still enjoy it! And it's going to be a great life for my boys! I would've liked a girl or two, but there are pros and cons to both genders and scenarios. All boys or all girls or a mix will have ups and downs and pros and cons. None would be technically better or more fun than the other. I'm going to experience being a boy mom and enjoy it and not focus on the experience I didn't get. I hope you feel better and find the help you're looking for. 🙂

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I’m in the same boat. Second boy, last baby. Hubby doesn’t want any more kids after this. How I got over mine was I started to choose to embrace the boy mom role. And looking to the future of how much fun it’s going to be getting to raise them. Like going boating with the boys their friends, or going camping with them and their friends when they’re older, taking them to sports practice, ect. Anything I can think of doing with them as teenagers so I can be a part of their lives as much as I can be. My hubby and I are investing in a boat and an RV within the next 7 years so we can go do fun stuff with them (and help them stay out of trouble during the summers lol). My dad brought us up to be very outdoorsy so we’re motivated to do the same for our boys ❤️ Hope that helps!

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I think when you meet him your just going to be overwhelmed with love and prettu soon you won't imagibe your life without your boys.

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