I’m at my breaking point. Yesterday I got engaged to an amazing man, yay all happy right? Nope. His oh so lovely mother after he told her I said yes replied to him saying “Oh.Wow.” Yeah real excited she seems to be. And his grandmother didn’t even say congratulations. Now this wouldn’t have been a huge breaking point for me if all the shit they’ve previously done hadn’t happened. In May my now fiancé and I had our first baby, a lovely little girl! And my future mil seems to think she’s mommy. She often calls herself mommy, refers to my daughter as “her baby” or “our baby”, she’s obsessed with my daughter in ways that instead of having her 6 year old daughter as her phone background or Facebook profile pic my daughter is her picture and her phone background. After my daughter was born she started to replace her youngest daughter with mine. When she’s over visiting she completely ignores her child and is overly obsessive with mine, she doesn’t share the baby when she’s holding her, she constantly thinks she needs to touch her or be right around her. She shows up unannounced, she constantly calls and texts asking if she can come over, I’m taking like she’ll see my baby on Wednesday and then ask again Saturday and Tuesday and then try to come over again on Wednesday of the next week. And almost everyday she texts my fiancé saying “how’s my baby” or “how’s my girl” like no your girl is your 6 year old daughter not my daughter. My daughter is your GRANDDAUGHTER. Also yesterday when we saw the lovely future mil and future grandmother in law my daughter was sleeping in her stroller with the hooded part up so she was enclosed, future grandmother even though I said not to stuck her hand in and purposely woke my daughter up! I was beyond pissed! Then she had the audacity to say “what’s the matter?” Like you know exactly what you just did lady. My future mil and grandmother in law have no respect for my boundaries as a parent and quite honestly don’t really care for me. I’ve kept my mouth shut about a lot of things and didn’t speak up against them even though they make everything about themselves in a conversation, they are overly obsessed with my child (my mother acts nothing like them and actually respects my boundaries), and they completely acted up when we got engaged yesterday. Things weren’t like this until week 30 of my pregnancy, they started to act like they were the centers of attention as soon as my baby got close to being born.

I’ve began not allowing them around as much because they overwhelm me so much and stress me out. I know the saying “it takes a village to raise a baby” but I am beginning to not want them around me or my child until they can respect boundaries, and stop calling my child theirs because she’s not.