So I went to my first OB appointment on Wednesday, and there were some things that my OB said that kinda made me uncomfortable and I’m thinking of switching to another OB.

Here is what happened:

This is my first pregnancy, we had to go to an <a href="https://glowing.com/glow-fertility-program">IVF</a> specialist because we were having trouble getting pregnant on our own. The <a href="https://glowing.com/glow-fertility-program">IVF</a> doctor was recommended to me by MY OB (this is important to know), and I just loved the <a href="https://glowing.com/glow-fertility-program">IVF</a> doctor. She was so sweet and supportive and was able to get us pregnant in less than a month of being at that office. We had two sonogram appointments with her and the baby was growing at the rate she wanted, so she told us it was time to be handed back to my original OB.

Flash forward to Wednesday of this week. My OB comes into the room to talk with my husband and I about our pregnancy. First thing she says: “Congratulations to you both! So tell me, how did you know you were pregnant? Did you just feel different one morning?”

Okay, now mind you, we spent a year an a half at her office dealing with infertility issues before she referred us to the <a href="https://glowing.com/glow-fertility-program">IVF</a> specialist. I was expecting her to remember that, or at least review my file before coming into the room to ask such a silly question.

I looked at her and said, “uh (nervous laugh) no, the <a href="https://glowing.com/glow-fertility-program">IVF</a> doctor you referred us to, helped us get pregnant. We’ve already had two sonograms and they faxed over the results and picture to this office about a week ago...”

Strike one.

Then she told me that she wanted to do a pap smear on me and check for chlamydia and gonorrhea.... I had to remind her that the <a href="https://glowing.com/glow-fertility-program">IVF</a> doctor just did all that in May, and again, they faxed over the results: everything came back normal.

Strike two.

After, a regular exam of my cervix (when she said looks normal and healthy), and a breast/stomach check, she then said, “okay, everything seems good here, we’ll see you in 4 weeks.” I quickly sat up, flustered, and said, “oh wait, I was wondering if I could ask you some questions I had?” She kinda looked impatient for a brief second, but then said sure.

Here were my questions:

-What hospital(s) do you deliver at?

-Do you work with Doulas? Any recommendations?

-Can you confirm my pregnancy to my insurance? Because they can send me a free breast pump.

-What type of medication can I take for headaches?

She answered my questions and then said to me, “you need to RELAXXXXXX and stop searching the internet (as she was laughing).”

Embarrassed, and confused, I said, “yeah I know, but this is my first baby and I’m just worried...”

She laughed and made a silly face and said, “the gorillas and llamas can do it, but do they ask any questions? Duh!”

Strike 3.

At that point I was more in shock and didn’t really process what she was saying. Now, that I’ve had time to reflect, I’m not happy with the way she spoke to me. This is my first pregnancy, my first baby and I asked 4 questions!!! Now, I do not feel comfortable to ask her any more questions. Is this normal?? What are your experiences?? Are doctors just not as sympathetic as I was expecting?? I have no problem switching doctors, but I just want to make sure I’m not being to sensitive before I do it.

Thanks for reading everything! ❤️