Backstory:

Been feeling pressure, lightening crotch, contractions all week. Called my OB Tuesday and I was sent to ER, my OB confirmed my contractions, offered me shots to stop them, I refused the shots because I’ve had a bad reaction to them before. I also am 35 weeks so I feel the risks outweigh the benefits at this point. She monitored me for 3 hours and said because I was dilated to a 2 she would send me home and let me labor there, told me to come back when things got worse.

I stayed home Wednesday & Thursday and rested. Nothing let up but nothing increased either. Come Friday night, I’m at home, kids are asleep in bed, around 11 pm I feel sharp pains. I assumed lightening crotch and ignored it. After an hour it becomes worse. I start feeling intense pressure, worse than I’ve felt before. I go the bathroom and try and pee, nothing but pushing helps the pain a little bit. I am VERY swollen down there. I take a warm bath and then try a warm shower, it doesn’t help. I still have the urge to push. I call my mom, she tells me to check myself, see what I feel down there. I do, and tell her I can feel what seems to be a big hard ball. She freaks out and tells me to go in. I call L&D and they also tell me to come immediately. mind you I’m in so much I’m in tears, can hardly walk.

I do. I get there at 1:05 am. I leave an urine sample, but they never touch it. They hook me up to the monitors and then check me for dilation.

First nurse: Yeah babies head is right there. I can’t find her cervix. Oh wait, is that it? No. Second nurse tries: oh wow yeah his head is right there. I can’t find her cervix either. I’m sure it’s closed.

I explain the other day my OB said I was a 2. Then they said “oh yeah, you’re probably a 2”

Leaves room. I don’t see them again. At 1:45 they come back in the room. Unhook me from the monitors. Told me “it’s completely normal to feel pressure and contractions right now.” I said “what about babies head being that low?” she said “he won’t fall out I promise. You were a previous C-section” I said “so what’s causing the pressure, it hurts to even walk” she said “its babies head, I know you want to push but just don’t. You might try drinking some water, we didn’t test it but it looks yucky just looking at it so we’re sure you’re dehydrated.” I said “all I do is drink water” she said “listen I’m sorry bit there’s really nothing we can do for you.” Mind you my 2 kids are sitting on the chair across the room sleeping. She looks at them and says “can any of your baby daddies come get them so you can rest for a few days. You probably just need to relax.” WHAT?! My WHAT?! As a nursing student I was baffled that she really used that lingo. So unprofessional. Mind you, I’m still in tears I hurt so bad, and now I’m getting mad. She then says “The OB on call thinks you’ll be fine. I’m sorry I wish there was something I could do, I feel so bad, but there’s nothing we can do.” I then said “and the fluid I’m leaking?” She said “probably just urine. Theres really no point in in doing an amnio test and having lab come in so late. Go home, try a pregnancy support belt and take some Tylenol. You’ll be okay. You’re next appt is the 29th. You’ll make it I’m sure.” Gives me discharge papers and walks out of the room. So I got dressed, and went back home. All night I still had pressure, still had contractions, still feel the need to push. I’m confused what to do. I have no family to come and take me to another hospital to be seen. The closest hospital besides this one is 1.5 hours away. And I don’t think my car will get there means how I’ve been having car trouble here lately.

Am i wrong for being mad at my local hospital. I usually trust the decisions medical staff makes but I didn’t even see the dr last night. I was there for 40 minutes total. I left in tears, in pain, feel stupid and like a drama queen. I’m terrified something gonna happen to my baby or ill deliver at home.

Also note I have a placenta previa and I have a history of placent abruption and uterine rupture