My husband and I hit a rough patch 8 months ago

He requested in therapy I show him love more since he was unsure how I feel about him ? Idk

So I did writing out sweet notes telling him how much I love and appreciate him even stating these things verbally

Surprising him with gifts and dates

These things were not happening all the time I’d say 4-5 times a month but mostly 99.9% verbal or letters

He before would be all I love you thank you or he’d agree with something I’d say or wrote a love note back

I started seeing that taper off on his end

So 2 weeks ago I wrote him a very sweet letter

Tonight gave him another

He said thanks...

Left it on the couch and one of the kids sat on it

It bugged me so I asked

Why aren’t you validating what I’m writing or saying to you verbally?

He was all OMG we have sex, we kiss, we hug, etc I’m here what do you want me to do?

I’m like I’m giving you what you wanted

He said ya annnnd?

I said I guess you’re right we do, do all those things you said so why am I giving you what you wanted?

He said than just stop writing letters and giving gifts because it started an argument just stop seriously don’t

I was like alright I won’t

He said GOOD

I was heartbroken I cancelled an Amazon order a snoopy coffee mug he loves snoopy and deleted a heartfelt letter I wrote to him I was gonna gift it on Tuesday

I’m lost sad and confused

Than in a few days he will be like why aren’t you writing letters

I’ll say you told me not too

Than he will get angry and say so you have to believe everything I say when I argue? WOW! Unreal

Yes you said not too soooo

Like one time during an argument he said quit texting me at the bus stop im too busy with the kids to text so I did

Few days later he asks why I quit texting him up there I said you said not too

Boom he was pissed because I took him literal