I’ve posted this twice but like years apart. First when it happened and then later and now I’m remembering it again and I’ll probably remember it for the rest of my life.

When I was 16 I was in a relationship with a guy that picked apart my body and I thought that was normal. He would be mad if I didn’t have my fingernails painted-type of guy. Controlled what I wore. Controlled what I did to my hair. Told me my vagina was weird even though it was the first vagina he’d ever seen. He made me feel extremely insecure about it made me feel like nobody would ever want me because of it. I didnt realize until later that the way he was treating me was awful until I was being treated better. I’m still being treated better. I had also learned that my vagina and vulva are absolutely normal. But that’s besides the point. He randomly called me one day. First he texted and made sure he had the right number and I can’t remember word for word but I can remember the gist of it.

It went like this:

“I was having a conversation with my girlfriend and she told me girls remember every bad thing someone says about their body for years. When I dated you I said some really harsh things to you about your body, especially about your vagina and that probably followed you for years even into new relationships. I needed you to know that nothing is wrong with you and you’re completely normal. I’m sorry I said those things. I was young and dumb and really wrong for that. Anyways I hope you have a good night. Goodbye.”

And I just sat there with my phone in my hand like 👀 thinking he had to have called a plethora of girls and did I just witness a boy become a man?

It’s proof that there’s hope even for the douche boys. I couldn’t believe it.