Orgasming

I was talking with a few girls and they told me that orgasming during sex doesn’t feel the same as when you just rub your clit and cum... so is it less intense ?? Because they told me whenever I start to get wetter that’s when I’m cumming but when that happens for me it just feels nice unless my gspot is being rubbed, then it feels amazing but I never come close to cumming. Not unless they pull out and I touch myself or if they actually give me good head, which I rARELY get🥺. Have I just been waiting for this heavenly sensation for nothing?