WARNING THIS IS GOING TO BE A RANT BECAUSE I HAVE NO ONE TO TALK TO ABOUT THIS

My boyfriend and I have been together for 1.5 years we’re both 20. Ever since we got together I’ve never felt good enough for his mum, she has never once when having dinner gotten to know me, ask me how uni is going or what I’ve been up to. She just talks to her son (my boyfriend) and her daughter and all I get is “hi honey” when I get there and say hello and “ Cya later, drive safe” when I’m leaving. I’ve told my boyfriend this because my parents are so much more welcoming to him then his mum is to me and he responds with “that’s how his mum is”. But she’s

All talkative when a friend of hers or other people come over.

It pisses me off and I’ve told my boyfriend when we organise for me to go over his house that he has to ask his mum if it’s ok. And I’ve said to him that you don’t need your mum’s permission like I don’t, when I just tell my own mum that I’m hanging out at his for the day.

So when he does ask his mum she’s like no we’ve got this family coming over for dinner or we’re going to see a movie together as a family and he’ll be like ok. And then that never happens I don’t know if it’s an excuse she uses but it always seems the case. That she seems to have plans when we want to do something and then we it comes around I ask him if he’s doing it and it never goes ahead.

Recently his granddad has come down to visit from another country for two weeks. Its been a week that he has been down. I have seen my boyfriend for a day and a half (two separate occasions). I last saw him on Wednesday and I said when will we see each other next. And he’s like I’ll ask my mum if you can come over on Sunday (today) and she’s like no we have people coming over for dinner. Do you think they did? No. Then he’s like I’ll ask if you can come on Monday. And he got no response.

So later on he messages me “I’m trying to bargain with mum but she said you can only come after 4:30 because she said I’m not spending time with Grandad” And so I’m like ok. Then he’s like I’m having an argument with her because she’s not letting me come over to yours on Thursday. I told him I don’t want to see him if he has to get in an argument with his mum. So now I’m not seeing him till his granddad leaves which is after the 17th of August. Because I said I don’t want you mum to think I’m pressuring you to see me and hate me even more than what she shows

What gets me is that his mum has had no trouble letting him have a boys night with his mates or go out with his friends whilst he’s granddad is over.

When stuff like this happens I get annoyed about it but then I get over it. But then it happens again and I remember when it annoyed me the last time. I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to be petty and let his mum get to me because I think that’s what she wants, for me to leave but I don’t know if I continue dealing with this.