Hi there! I never really post anything but thought I would share with everyone our journey. In October 2018, we were pregnant the first month we tried. Unfortunately, that ended as a missed miscarriage and I had to get a d&c at the end of November.

Once I got a normal period in January of this year, we started trying again but each month, it just wasn’t happening. Every month I would try to add something new like an experiment to up my chances.

Well, I became pretty obsessive to say the least. I planned my life around my cycles. I wouldn’t go out during my tww, only looked forward to ovulation time. It was getting bad. Well this year, we bought a villa in Bali and I never even saw it in person. Decided to stop living around a possibility because I’m missing too much. We booked a flight with a few of our friends.

Well, as I was waiting for my flight that night, I started to feel a little funny. I had a dull headache, some strange cramping in front and back, and to my surprise my breasts were sore. I used to convince myself I was pregnant every month though so I tried to brush it off but by the time I arrived in Bali, I just knew. The next day, af didn’t show and my symptoms started ramping up.

I know this is a long post so if you’re still reading, thank you. I just wanted to do my part and put some information out there because these were the kind of posts I liked to stalk while ttc.

How I knew I was really pregnant:

Other than just woman’s intuition, everything felt like any other cycle. Because progesterone peaks around 9dpo anyway, I always thought I was pregnant in previous months but by 13 dpo, every symptom I felt would fade. However, this time, it just intensified.

What I did differently this month:

My husband started taking maca root and a better multivitamin, I took maca root as well starting from CD1 and stopped when I got a peak on opk. I also started taking evening primrose oil but stopped towards ovulation because I felt like it was delaying it. Something else I did that may seem silly but is totally worth a shot. I’m very much into feng shui- positive energy and energy flow in homes and decor. So I channeled that love into our bedroom and applied some fertility enhancing feng shui. Here’s what you do if you’re interested:

Clear your room of any dead plants. Tidy up your closet of any clutter. No red in the bedroom. Neutral, peaceful colors only. Sleep on your husband’s right side. Place a tiny dragon figurine on the side of his bed. Place elephant figurines anywhere in my bedroom with their trunk pointing downwards. Place a hollow bamboo on the northern side of your bedroom. I also purchased some fertility enhancing crystals and would YouTube fertility meditations every night and place the crystals on my abdomen. The meditations really helped clear my mind and bring peace while feeling productive towards conceiving.

Most of all, here’s what I really want to tell all the women out there trying and losing hope:

DON’T LISTEN TO THE PEOPLE WHO TELL YOU TO “JUST RELAX, STOP TRYING AND IT WILL HAPPEN!” It’s the worst advice EVER! In fact, you should be proactive and you SHOULD try! Keep trying and it will happen! Ttc is stressful. Trying not to stress about something stressful is even more stressful. Stress doesn’t make you infertile.

All of the things I mentioned I did differently this month may have worked but no one will know. It might’ve just happened regardless but I don’t regret doing it because it made me feel more in control and productive. It took us 6 cycles this time. Good luck ladies!!