Hi ladies!!

So my boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years now and it’s been kind of rough. We lived together before but he moved out because of some family things. Since our dating backgrounds are different we argue about a lot. We are trying to get better now talking things out more and he has since moved back in and has been back for like 6 months.

In the beginning we had A LOT of sex. I mean like random, passionate and intense now though... it kind of feels burned out. It’s like a chore than a urge. Sometimes its great but more or less it’s “hey wanna have sex”, “sure” then we do it and go on about our day. I’m not sure if it’s a mutual emotional thing because we argue and sex is our form of “makeup” or if I’m just being a bitch and in my feelings because of that and my own insecurities. (I’ve gained like 30 pounds since dating him and don’t feel as good as I used to). We don’t get dressed and go out and have fun any more. All we do is work, go out to eat, go to the movies & sleep.

I don’t know what to do. Overall I’m just like stone faced about the whole relationship. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not horrible but that honeymoon phase is definitely over.

Am I just bored, too comfortable or is this how relationships are? I need HELPPP 😩