So I’m a single mom to a 2.5 y/o, got pregnant while on birth control only 4 months in when I finally decided to explore dating. I broke up with the guy because I didn’t see him being the right fit for father or partner that I was looking for..found out a Week later we had gotten pregnant even though I was on BC. Im 33+5 now and This whole pregnancy he’s been uninvolved and crappy to me. I have a meeting with him tomorrow to get a parenting plan together and I know it will get brought up about him “not knowing” how to help or what to do.

He has an alcohol issue and priority issue and is lazy so I am apprehensive of how protective I’ll need to be of the baby, therefore being cautious and smart in how we move forward. My dad presented the idea of giving him a list of all the things needed to prepare for baby so that he has specific needs and the opportunity to provide them or to not and for it to be additional proof of his lack of providing as needed if he doesn’t. I put together a list as if I had nothing, but I’m wondering if this is too much or what. I can make a lot of things work that I had used with my first, but at the same time it shouldn’t all fall on me.

Curious what others may do/think.