Am I the only one going through this? We have seen each other for a decade, and lived with one another the past two years. I know he loves me in his way, to the best of his abilities due to his past. Our sex life isn't satisfying for me due to that fact that he will not make love. It's all very "straight out of a porno" . I'm about to get graphic ...Sex literally starts with head for him. He gets somewhat aggressive during that part to where he likes to gag me and pull my hair. Now , I'm all for that and I think it's great but he never goes down on me or kisses me during sex..So it doesn't even out. Sex with us isn't slow. It isn't tender. Also, my man is not a man of many words. He doesn't like to talk about issues. Very drama free and will turn his cheek if I try to voice my problems.(alot of you wont understand that but it is what it is) . My question is..how can I get him to slow things down?

Yes I have tried telling him months ago that I need him to be more affectionate. He literally told me " if I'm not f**king enough for you, go get it somewhere else ". Now this may seem like a man that doesn't care right? This is the same man that goes through my phone and messages men that tell me that I'm pretty on facebook. He tells them to meet him so he can beat them up. Childish right? So the jealously is obviously there and obviously he doesn't want me sleeping with anyone else. What do you guys think?

**EDIT** id like to add that OCCASIONALLY he will kinda make love. But he is an a*shole to me afterwards. Like he cant believe he just was passionate