Hi ladies, please I need your opinions but no insult please.

My husband and I have been married for 6 years now and he has been a very wonderful person to me and our 2 kids. But two years into our marriage we decided to bring his mom over from the other country to help out with the kids so he could work while I go to nursing school. She came in December of 2016 and that was when my life changed forever. During her first month she started with little things like “oh I don’t like that dress you are putting in n, don’t you know you are married” “ you need to get a hair cut to save some money” “ you eat a lot is that the reason why my son married you?” “ I have a feeling that you are sending my sons money to your family”, she told me that 20 percent of my salary belongs to her, on top of that it is not included on the things I buy for her occasionally, and a whole lot more. But I just ignored and laughed over it. I never mentioned any of these to my husband. I thought not mentioning would bring peace. Three months after she came I started preparing to go back to school while I got a call from my sister Inlaw asking me if I would send my baby to the day care, I answered no and was very surprised if my husband had not told them that the mom is here to help. And then she asked if I would be taking my child to school and told her that no one takes a baby to school, and that was the end of that conversation. I approached my mother Inlaw and asked if she is willing to care for the baby and she told me that was too old for that (she was 66 then) and that she came to her son’s house to have fun. But finally She agreed to care for the baby if only I would pay her biweekly plus other things I give to her occasionally. ( God knows I did everything with my whole heart). We agreed on that.

March of 2017 my husband got himself into trouble and was retained abroad. This was where my depression really started. My MIL would come into my room every morning while I was crying and ask me to leave with my daughter, she would say “why are you crying, please it’s not too late to leave my son alone if you cannot endure the fact that he is not here”. This time she added a lot of things to the ones she was already doing. She would harass any friend that comes to the house, she would come right where I was on phone and ask me to drop the phone or else she would do that for me. She would accuse me of going out with other men. A whole lot of things and when I stand up for myself she would tell me that he would surely tell my husband that I maltreated her. She would even make fun of my deceased mom saying that she is suffering where ever she is now. I endured a lot of things while I tried hard to get my husband out from where he was held. Finally they released him and he came back to the UNited States.

Two days before I went to pick him up, the mom came and told me that I should bother making any food for him, that I should just clean the house and that she was going to make the food for him. I said “okay” I never called it anything. My husband came back and she said all sorts of things to him and suggested he divorce me. But my husband told her that it’s too late that we are already married and I didn’t do anything to him. And that was the end, she decided to take over the kitchen and start handling everything, but I still did not say a word, I always deceive myself by saying “no, she gave birth to the love of my life so I need to endure everything” but I didn’t know I was killing my self.

Long story short, I got pregnant 2 months after my husband came back and we were so excited so I told her and she said something I would never forget “ Not that am happy with this pregnancy but I cannot do any thing about it” then I was rolling in tears. I asked her why she has been so mean to me despite the fact that I have tried so hard to please her and she said the most shocking thing to me, she told me that my husband is not just her son but a husband to her, and that any woman that he Marry is only there to have kids for him and nothing else, that she cannot watch any woman take him away, I told her that I understand that feeling, and I know it’s normal even though I know it’s not normal but that I just wanted her to stay with us in peace. After that conversation she even got worse. Then I decided to approach my husband myself. To my greatest surprise my husband didn’t do nothing but he told me to come with him for a date. He took me to the high way and said all sorts of things to me. All the bad things i never heard before, he accused me so badly of maltreating the mom. Few months later he some back issues and had to stay home for two weeks that was when he witnessed everything she has been doing and he came to me and apologised. And promised to send her back so that we figure out what to do with our kids.

2017, 2018, now 2019 and she is still in my house making life so unbearable for me, promising to make sure that I die before she lives, meanwhile i will be done with my program in few months time and we finally got a day care for the kids in 2018, so she would not be bothered.

So what led me to writing this, I am currently 17 weeks pregnant with my 3rd child, and I have been so depressed that I don’t remember things, am having panic attacks and I have been talking in my sleep, not just sleep talking but according to my husband I would always say when am sleeping “ God why me, I deserve to be loved, my kids too, it’s well, I know everything would be fine” but he is telling me all these at the same time making fun of it. I have told him initially that since he is not ready to get a ticket for the mom to go back that I need to go away for 2 weeks with the kids so I can have some time for myself but he refused. That was how we started having arguing and he slapped my face three times and hit me on my body and threatened to kill me and go to jail. The cops came but I told them he never hit me even though the police saw the bruises on my face but I lied just to protect my abuser. I know he is depressed by this same problem but I don’t understand why he can’t get a thicket for his mom. She was very happy with everything and even danced around. When I noticed what she was doing I decided to put on a cheerful face. My husband came and asked for forgiveness and decided to get a thicker for her.

I love my husband so much, my relationship is one that friends have always admired, but after he lasted his hands on me with my pregnancy am so worried. I forgive yes, but it’s so hard for me to forget, I do t think I would ever forget this. Please what do you guys think it’s right? Am sorry it’s a long post, English is also my second language please bear with me.