Initiating sex?

Question

This is embarrassing for me to admit, but I have a lot of insecurities about my body and they affect my confidence. I want to initiate sex with my boyfriend but I feel embarrassed and don’t know how to do it without being super weird and uncomfortable because of how I look. I know my boyfriend loves me & I’m comfortable with him, just not with myself. Does anyone have any ideas on how i can get over my insecurities and let myself live? Maybe you experienced this too?? I’m not sure what to do. Thank you very much in advance. 
-K

Answer

1) Put on a bomb ass outfit (doesn’t have to lingerie) and do your hair. Optional: put on make up (it really does help but it is important to kno that it ENHANCES what is already there are you are not ugly without it.
2) get in front of your mirror (preferably full length).
3) stare at yourself until you love what you see. Point out every single part of your body and think ‘damn I’m happy to have that’. If there’s anything you don’t love, either recognize that it makes you unique which is good or make plans to change it if you can (exercising and eating healthy are THE top two ways).
4) drink a little and dance. Stretch! Being comfortable with moving your body and liking what you see is a huge confidence booster.
5) use your boyfriend. Have him tell you what he finds attractive and sexy about you. Ask him if he were to be seduced, how would he like it done? And then plan it out!
6) realize that everybody on this earth has something about their body that they are insecure about and you are for sure not alone! (Hence the comments on this post lol. Me in particular, i think my legs and arms are too skinny like twigs). What helps is coping and not letting your fears stop you from doing what want to do most (in this case initiate sex).
7) srsly light exercise and healthy eating DO boost your mood which can help with confidence.
You got this!!

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Offer him back rub, turn him around and offer a front one 😉 Also perhaps a small drink to loosen up 🤷🏻‍♀️ Obviously this is not a solution for everytime you want to initiate sex, but it’s a start. I think the most important thing is just being confident and pushing your insecurities aside to focus on pleasuring your man and havin a good time.

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I have to verbalize it otherwise I feel really silly (no sexy moves, dances, etc). Usually I say a few things hinting at it and then if he doesn’t get it (men...) then I start saying things more bluntly lol

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Sometimes I get so nervous to initiate, even after two years, and sometimes it’s totally fine. No clue why lol. If I’m struggling to make a move I’ll usually just start giving him kisses and snuggling up to him and he usually catches on

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Drink a little 😂😂 Haha just kidding (kinda). I'm the same way but I kinda just go for it and fake it till I make it!! My issue has always been I just didnt have much sexual experience before my husband so i always feel awkward and it has nothing to do with my comfort level with him, it's totally me being so in my head. But I've started to block out any inner thoughts and just get straight to the business! I usually just start by undoing his pants and going down on him and then after a bit I'll get on top and ride him! Most guys love when women take control so just go for it and even if you're nervous, pretend you know what you're doing and that you love it even if you dont 😂

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