Am I being crazy? Hunters wife

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So my husband is an avid hunter, and when our baby is 1.5 months old he plans to leave for Nebraska for a week to go deer hunting. (We live In Michigan so Nebraska is quite far.)
We keep fighting about it and I’m saying you can’t just go leave me a full week with a newborn for a hunting trip, you can skip it this year. And he thinks I’m crazy and fully capable of taking care of our baby when he’s away.
I know there are single moms out there so I’m SURE I’ll be fine but is this really fair? I’m super chill and pretty much let him do whatever and this is the first time I’m telling him he shouldn’t be leaving when she’s so young. And he’s not having it. I honestly think he already booked everything.
So am I being overly dramatic? This is our first baby so I really don’t know what to expect. Should I just let him travel and leave us for a week? 
I’m just curious on anyone else’s thoughts or other HUNTERS wives who have delt with this.

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You are fully capable But he still shouldn't go, a new born is hard and doing it on your own is harder.
Sure single mothers do it by themselves but your not a single mother so shouldn't have to.

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Thats something you and him have to come to a agreement on together. If its something that he does every year id consider letting him go but make a agreement when he comes home he has to get up a week straight with the baby through the night so you can catch up on rest! Either way sit down and have a talk an explain to each other how yall feel about it and what concerns you.

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He probably has had this trip booked for some time now as lodging/flights tend to be cheaper when booked ahead of time. My husband was planning on going to Utah this fall for a hunting trip but when he found out I was pregnant with our third child, he canceled. His reasoning was not only is this our last child but that infant stage goes by SO quickly and he rather spend his time off with his son, especially when we have our own land full of deer. Honestly, it’s a personal choice that you BOTH will have to come to some sort of resolution. I’d have a sit down, serious conversation with him about it as having a new born is hard and you never get that time back. I hope the best for you!

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Hes being selfish I would tell him if he goes then its gonna be a real problem . The truth is yeah you can handle it but you shouldnt have to I mean how would he feel if the shoe was on the other foot ? I understand wanting to have fun but he needs to sit this one out

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Wow, that's a lot of vacation time away. My husband went away on a camping trip when our son was almost 2 months old. It was for a weekend and we normally did it together however with a baby it was not possible for me. So we agreed he would go. I think it was good for him to get a break and to be around people. However a full week is a lot. I just don't agree that it is fair. Also I believe big decisions like that need to be agreed on in a marriage. Babies grow so fast and bonding is so important. There is deer hunting everywhere he doesn't have to go to Nebraska (btw I am a Minnesota girl lol) there should be a compromise.

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I would let him go. It’s important to still do things for yourself even when you have kids. I would have your mom and someone come stay with you to help while he’s gone.... If it is that important to him and your ok with it.

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So is he then going to give you a week to go away alone???

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That’s a long time to be gone on a vacation. Just because you’re capable of taking care of your baby alone doesn’t mean you should have to

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I’d be super pissed if my husband left for a week for a completely optional vacation. It would be one thing if it was an unavoidable work trip or something but, no, I’d be really ticked. I’d also be even more pissed that he completely disregarded your concerns. If there’s no stopping him I’d look into having a family member come stay with you for the week to help out. At 6 weeks you’ll likely be starting to feel a lot better but it’s still going to be tough. If you happen to end up with a c section you might still be hurting from that. I would absolutely see if you can get some help.

Am I being crazy? Hunters wife

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