Letting his friends in OUR room

Drea

Once in a while my bf’s friend will come over and smoke, sometimes he lets them in our room to play his game or just hangout. Last time he wanted his friend to see our new tv and the room was messy and I had said no because the room wasn’t clean and just today his friend came after work knowing they sweat and smell from work idk if he was on our bed or what. I told him it’s rude and disrespectful because our room is private you know it’s our place mine and his place. He said he didn’t see how it was rude or disrespectful I don’t get how it’s not? It’s literally private