Would you kick your 20 year old daughter out if she was a junior in college/making good grades and working 25 hours a week BUT continues to date her boyfriend of 5 years who is jobless, smokes pot and isn’t pursuing college?

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She is doing good, works, in college. If you kick her out then what?! She will probably turn to him if she has nowhere else to go. Sounds like she has her head on her shoulders and I’m sure she will eventually come to the realization that she’s going to have to support him for the rest of his life if he doesn’t change.. My sister dated a guy like that for a long time and once she got her associates degree she got a great job in the career path she is pursuing and she ended up leaving him 🤷🏻‍♀️

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I wouldn’t punish my daughter for her boyfriends doings. If it’s not bringing her down why kick her out? She can’t make her boyfriend change.

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She will end up with him and most likely living just like him. She will most likely realize he’s no good and leave him. I know it’s hard but you have to let people learn on their own! She’s doing great with the important things. Her boyfriend right now is not the most important thing in the world. Just love and support her through it. Don’t push her away. Be there for her and hopefully she’ll realize he’s no good or at the very least they want different things

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you wanna kick your OWN daughter out because someone else’s kid lacks aspirations?

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No god we have all dated our fair share of idiots let her get on with it

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Wow that's awful. Why would you punish her for what her boyfriend does? I understand the whole "your house, your rules" thing but shes not 15...shes 20 and the way you made it sounds, she's got good things going for her and a good head on her shoulders. If all you have to complain about is her boyfriend, i think you should mind your own business and stay out of her relationship.

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Eh I think that's sabatoging to her because you don't like who she's dating. Which is fucked up and backwards. 
1- she's 20, not 35, she doesn't have to date a keeper. She's young enough to where it's possible that once SHES ready to consider marriage, she'll start considering more important factors such as responsibility and move on on her own from him 
2- if you kick her out WHERE do you think she's going to go? Her boyfriend's. So congratulations on doing the dead opposite of what you want
3- kicking her out and into her boyfriend's, who has no motivation in life, might end up affecting/sabatoging her motivation in life. She's going to have to work more go pay bills, she won't have a good example supporting her, she might get too overwhelmed and quit school, whatever. But it could affect her future 
So if you want her to continue growing as a person, doing good in school, and staying on the right track, you're going to have to accept a 20 year old dating a guy you don't like. She's growing as a person, as is her taste in men. Give it time and help her, don't be petty and sabotage her because you want her to be with someone else

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Heck no.  But I would offer her bf support in finding what he’s interested in, has a passion or talent for.  And I would probably also try to see if he’s showing signs of depression.

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Is she’s supporting him then yes—- she can do that in their own place and on their own time.

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No. But he wouldnt be allowed to come ro my house or be around my family. I would give her my advice and hope sooner then later she got rid of him.

Would you kick your 20 year old daughter out if she was a junior in college/making good grades and working 25 hours a week BUT continues to date her boyfriend of 5 years who is jobless, smokes pot and isn’t pursuing college?

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