Need marriage advice

So my husband is gone a lot. He is military, and where we live he has to go deployed most of the year. It sucks, but we get to FaceTime sometimes and he comes home a couple times a year to get us through. But my problem isn’t being alone, I’m fine with that and we both have no issues with being faithful. My problem is he never wants to go on dates or do anything nice. Like we never get each other gifts for holidays, birthdays or anniversaries. I have tried. I get him chocolates and write him a romantic letter on Valentine’s Day. I do all the romantic things. And he just doesn’t really respond. Like he will say thank you and if I pry, he just says “i just don’t show emotion. My dad never did, so I don’t”. And it just breaks my heart a little bit. We’ve been together 5 years and have two kids. I have told him multiple times I’d like him to plan dates or do things but he just doesn’t ever end up doing it. I am at my wits end. I really don’t want to divorce. I’ve asked him for marriage counseling and he says we don’t need it. 🙄 He’s a good man and I know he cares, but he never says anything sweet or does any sweet gestures or anything EVER. He takes care of us and works hardZ but I still feel like I’m always putting in 100% of the effort. HELP.