Does it always turn into physical abuse?

I am in a very emotionally abusive relationship with my daughter's father. We have been together for 3 years and my baby is 6 months old.

I just have to know... does it always start off with emotional abuse or is it usually physical from the beginning?

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Ka

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My ex started with emotional abuse and it became physical abuse once I started standing up for myself. You and your baby deserve better. Years later, I’m still recovering from the emotional abuse and have been diagnosed with complex PTSD. Don’t wait until it turns physical. You don’t need to be physically assaulted to justify leaving.

Da

Danielle 🐈 • Sep 9, 2019
It's been 7 years since I dated the person who emotionally abused me. And I can say for a fact, the memories never fade away

Xi

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No, not always. But don't even look at it that way. Don't even compare. Emotional abuse can often be so much more damaging than physical. I most definitely found the emotional abuse more difficult.You have a 6 month old. Ask yourself, does your baby witness abuse? Is your baby affected by the abuse? Is the baby, too, being abused? Is your husband willing to accept his behaviour for what it is? Would he be willing to get help?I remained hopeful for some time. I even went through a phase of thinking that I was a rare case, where my husband had acknowledged his abuse and was making change for the better. No, he wasn't and no, he didn't. He just changed how he was abusing me, so again, I had to go through a realisation that I'm just being abused all over again. It's weird. And sick. They can't help themselves. He just got worse, until my baby boy and the baby I was carrying were being affected by it. So I changed the locks, called the police and every damn charity I could find. Why do you stay? Do you think your baby needs a dad? Or do you love him? Feel sorry for him?Be strong. Reflect on your relationship and its events, but consider everything only from your perspective as a mother to your little baby. Only consider your child in all of it, not you. Do you deem him safe for her, or no?I hope it works out for you. Reach out for support in any and every way you can.

Mo

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Emotional abuse can escalate. It may take years, but it’s always possible for it to escalate to physical abuse, especially if the emotional abuse is severe. Please get out. You deserve a chance at REAL love.