Controlling Relationship SOS

I’ve been married just over a year. My husband is extremely controlling and verbally abusive. This last year has been horrible. I do everything I’m told. I don’t talk to my friends anymore I don’t help my family financially. I really needed some new clothes so I spent 200 of my own money. Please keep in mind I pay half the bills in my household and I’ve been putting money away in the savings for an emergency. I really needed new clothes. He has all brand new EXPRESS clothing and if you don’t know what T-shirts 30+ dollars. Calvin Klein shoes he has expensive taste and has tons of clothes for him. I spent $200 at Marshall’s because my clothes were literally falling apart and he lost his mind. If I’m spending money on him he’s fine with it if I’m spending money on his family he’s fine with it the first time in three years I actually spend a decent amount of money on myself I’m in trouble. He goes through on my savings account and through my checking account daily. Our bills are all paid and we are not struggling financially by any means. He’ll go to the casino or blow money or give hundreds of dollars to his family and I’m not allowed to say anything whatsoever but I buy myself clothes and he’s being so mean about it. I’ve never said anything to him about how he spends his money due to the fact our bills are taken care of and I’m not his mother. I would like to feel as if I could at least have some say in financial decisions when it comes to something as big as buying a Ford F150 when we already just bought two new cars. We agreed on starting a family and he’s all of a sudden changed his mind and decided unless I’m on my best behavior he will not give me a child next year even. I don’t do every single thing he says if I do not I’m called a fucking idiot a whore and being threatened with divorce. I have no close family I have nowhere else to go and I love my husband very much but I don’t really know what to do. I changed my religion so I could be with him I covered my hair so I can make him happy and I’m treated horribly and I can do is sit here and cry.

UPDATE:

I took the advice and stood up for myself... he decided I’m disrespectful and is divorcing me. We have yet to discuss the arrangements. I told him he’s mean and evil and doesn’t deserve my kindness. He doesn’t care he just said he hates me and it was a mistake to marry me. So I’m crying silently on my couch watching Big Bang