Help!

So me and my bf have been dating for almost 2 years. And we haven’t had sex🤦🏽‍♀️ I know it’s hard to believe but we’ve done everything else lol. And I’m going to sound like a bitch but the reason we haven’t (because trust me we’ve tried) is because it FREAKIN HURTS! Like I’ve had sex before w other guys and it hurt but it wasn’t intolerable and it hurt for like 2 seconds. I’ve gone to the doctors and been tested and said nothing was wrong. Idk If it’s cause I’m anxious and scared ? Bc when I’ve had sex in the past those guys were never serious people in my life and I never had real feelings for them besides one. And the one I did have feelings for who I actually lost my virginity to ended up being abusive cheating and r*ped me multiple times.. I don’t know what to do and I don’t know what help you guys can give me but I want to have sex w my man so much and obviously he does to. We’re both at a loss right now 🤦🏽‍♀️