Can I f**king kill her?

Question

So this folks is my “best” friend. She got pregnant because she missed 3 bc pills... I have been trying for two years.... I have been on 6 rounds of drugs, getting ready for

and possibly

and this bitch

EDIT: I don’t actually want to kill her that’s absurd. I was upset. And you know what you all suck why can’t I just vent? Y’all don’t know the whole story and yeah that’s on me but why can someone be on my side yeah she sucks and move on? She knows my story. She knows literally everyone around me is getting pregnant or has had a baby within the last 6 months. My sister in law, brother in laws wife, my sister, and every single friend. Not to mention co workers and what not. I just told her I was miscarrying and this was the response. She knows how much I hate this phrase. I hate being told it’s in some greater plan blah blah blah. I am allowed to be upset. I was bleeding and losing a baby that I want so much while she was taking 1/2 bottle of vitamin C because she thought it would kill her baby... so thank you very much 🖕🏼

Accepted Answer

What would you like her to say? Her fertility has nothing to do with you. Nit wise to alienate those who are closest to you.

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It’s not her fault you can’t get pregnant. I’m sorry that you are struggling, but this is your friend, and friends support one another. She wasn’t being malicious or trying to make you feel bad.

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What she is saying is all true. I too believe she meant well. I know the struggle. It is frustrating and painful. But God’s plan is God’s plan. I also had to learn to let go and let God. Be happy for her, your time will come. x

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It’s not her fault you can’t be pregnant and she’s not taking anything from you by being pregnant. People told me this stuff all the time even when I had a miscarriage. It infuriated me but educate her, don’t be nasty to her. Whenever people told me things like this I took it as an opportunity to educate them and how to actually handle infertility and miscarriages.

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People who haven’t had to work at it simply cannot get it. I wouldn’t take it personally but I get frustrated by it all the time. That’s why we have forums like this-to talk to people who get it.

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I hate when ppl say stuff like that

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I get it. I struggled and haven't had any successful pregnancies. I've lost 3 times? The last one was my daughter at 21 weeks. The one thing I HATE is someone telling me it happened for a reason 🙄. If you haven't struggled you don't truly know. But you need to realize most wont understand. It sucks.

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Honestly its not her fault. You need to take your anger out somewhere else.

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I hate these clichés- although she means well it’s rather presumptuous and I think kind of rude to say these things 🤷🏼‍♀️ good intentioned or not.
Reality is that some people try their whole lives and NEVER have their baby- and unless you’ve been in the IF world or work in the IF field I think it’s hard for others to understand/grasp. It’s not a promised or guaranteed thing and I feel like it’s almost saying you’re less deserving of a baby right now because it’s not “in gods time” No. that’s not how it works. And no not everyone will eventually get their baby. I wish people would really think harder sometimes when trying to give advice. A better thing to say would be “I’m here for you if you need anything and I’m sorry you are struggling” 
Maybe try to tell her that these things don’t make you feel better- and that this is a really sensitive time for you. That although she means well this isn’t helpful. And if there’s anything she could do that can help you maybe tell her.

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People will not understand how you feel and will never get it. Their journey is different than yours. Things like that do pi*% me off but I’m refusing to get this to me. You’re strong and will get through this! Keep going girl! ✨

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