Double standards // getting over a break up?

Question

People say, do not build your life around one person, and I agree in a way. 
But then you read posts of those who are in love and married for a long time and they say things like “he’s my everything”. So where’s the truth here?
How do you know you commit if you don’t fully immerse yourself in a relationship?

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My opinion (please don't shoot). They are married so they dont know anything but being with that person, hence they are thier everything.... And it is possible for some they went through what i went through which is; I have learnt (the hard way) that if you invest so much on one person you forget to know how to be alone. The moment i was able to enjoy myself and my own company , sharing myself and my company with my partner was a walk in the park, because i can still have that walk in the park with/without him. Hope i makes sense

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Of course after 21 years of marriage and 3 kids my family is my everything. That said I don't have to lose myself because of that I am still my own person I take time to do things all by myself for myself. It's not one or the other.

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You can fully commit to someone and still have time with other people too. Just coz you’re married or in a serious relationship doesn’t mean you shouldn’t spend time with friends and family outside the relationship.

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Even before marriage, some people drop all their friends. And one day wake up and realize all they have is their SO. I personally think it’s important to have both and not get caught up.

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Before meeting someone. You have a life. Objectives, dream, passion, desire. You are defined by who you are. Now you can meet someone and yes you create another side of you...a you in a relationship. A you that will still have their dream, but consider another being in it. So. Yes someone can be your everything but not replace you. So basically you do not lose you in the process of loving.  No one should ever... And that doesn't mean that because you didn't lose yourself you will not feel the pain of a break up if break up occurs... no..it just means that while going through break up you will still come out remembering that YOU ARE.

Double standards // getting over a break up?

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