I’ve been with my Bf for 4 years now he’s physically hurt me and he’s mentally abusive he always threatens and blackmails me in argument, we have two very young kids together which makes the situation harder as I’m constantly trying to make sure they don’t see or hear the arguments. I know I need to leave now but I don’t know how

He has grabbed and pushed me in arguments. Locks me in the house or stands in front of the door

But he’s scaring me even more now the other night he started an argument over nothing i tried to walk away and he grabbed my wrists and wouldn’t let go I begged him to let go because it hurt but he wouldn’t he got right up in my face and shouted at me I told him to stop and he kept saying ‘or what’ what you going to do theres never anything I can do because he’ll take my phone off me or stand in front of the door

He says stuff like ‘ if you don’t do what I want I’ll wake the kids up ‘ uses anything he can against me

Today he broke a door and punched the walls right next to me because the phone call I was making disconnected

I’ve told him how he’s scaring me and the kids he ‘promises’ he will stop but he won’t

He pinches me and I’ve told him it hurts and leaves bruises but he still does it

He’s chocked me in arguments

Pushes me into stuff & talks to me like shit like i don’t mean anything to him

It’s hard because we live together and he brings in all the money and my family don’t live close

I haven’t told them anything about the relationship I guess I just don’t know how to afraid they won’t understand

Has anyone an advice please I’m losing hope that things will ever get better