What to do???

Question

Okay so about 2 weeks ago me and my bf got kicked out of my parents house on this same day he lost his job as well. So that leaves me currently as the only one working, I work full time and still want to go back to school. We’re both young 20 & 23. For a couple nights we were staying in hotels and at family/friends. We’re currently staying at my tias house for a month until we can find a place... about a week after settling in my period was late and I found out I’m pregnant. I already know I can’t keep it due to our circumstances and was set on getting an abortion (non surgical) since I’m still early on. I was nervous to tell him because of everything going on at the moment and I knew it would just add more stress to our situation but I finally did and like I knew his was response was we can’t afford it we don’t even have a place of our own and we’re barley making it just us 2. So we were completely on the same page but then I started having 2nd thoughts. I had a miscarriage in May and at that time I really wanted it bc we were in better situation and able to have it, we were both really upset when it happened. And now I just feel like it sucks bc I’m given the opportunity again and We can’t have it. I want it but I know I shouldn’t have it, just for the sake of the baby having a good future. I guess part of me is just afraid of making the wrong decision. Like what if I don’t get pregnant again or something bad happens? You know... I’m currently at the date of when I had my last miscarriage about 6 weeks. I’m torn and don’t know what to do. I told him about having 2nd thoughts and he was completely supportive of it and told me it’s ultimately my decision and no matter what I choose he’ll be here for me and our baby. For those of you who are gonna say I should’ve gone on birth control all of this happened so sudden and I was looking into birth control just waiting for this period to come which never did.. I guess after all this I’m just trying to get some insight on what I should do and some advice, thanks

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If your having second thoughts don’t do it. You may regret it and that’ll tear you up. You have 9 months to prepare, if you want the baby keep it😊 you got this!

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I always hear “if you’re waiting til you think you have enough money to raise a child, you’ve waited too late.” A child cost money, yes.. but is the other option worth you living in misery over a decision you will regret?
I, personally, disagree with abortions..would I hate you if you were to get one? No..but I will most definitely not encourage it. 
There’s a reason why you’re having these second thoughts. Trust in yourself that you’ll make the best decision..you know what’s best for your life. Everyone is different and may have different opinions.

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If you’re not 100% positive you want an abortion don’t get one. If y’all decide to keep it then you’ll have some really good motivation for y’all to get back on your feet fast. Where there’s a will there’s a way.

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When I found out I was pregnant with my second child we financially were not in a good spot. We were stressed and just said we have 9 months to figure it out. Well we cracked down and hustles to get a lot of debt payed off and now I’m a SAHM. You can do it! If you are having second thoughts don’t do it. I had an abortion when I was 20 I was with an abusive terrible guy and I knew if I had the baby we both would be in hell so I chose abortion. I still 10 years later feel like I shouldn’t have done it. 
So really think about it.

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I would keep the baby. You have 9 months to sort out living arrangements. Also buying secondhand baby items is the way to go anyway and it’s so much cheaper. As long as your boyfriends gets another job and helps out, then I bet it will all be just fine. Ultimately it’s your choice though. Best of luck to you

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How come you guys got kicked out? What about his family? Maybe talking with your parents about your current situation will ease them and let you guys return while you guys save money? 
My husband and I were 19/20 when we became parents for the first time and we lived with our parents our space got small and were now on our own. We struggled as we moved far away but managed to have alternated work schedules so one of us always stayed with our son. He’s now 6 yrs old and we’re trying for our second we were t financially stabled before and were in a better place but not where we want to be but if we keep pushing it we may never be we’re we want so we’re just going forward with it and see what happens.

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