First Pap Smear

I went to an OBGYN for the first time today and it was a nightmare 😩 I was nervous but the nurse was so nice and so I relaxed a little bit. But when the doctor came in, She was the worst! I've been dieting and exercising for a few months now to lose some weight and she just kept commenting on it and would not change the subject. Everytime I answered her question like do you live with your parents? I'd say yes and she'd go "Is that who's feeding you". She told me to eat whatever I want assuming it'd be fried foods and deserts, but to eat "small portions" of unhealthy foods and then finish them later. Like I'm pretty sure that's not healthy and you're my OB not my dietician wtf. She said a vegetarian diet is complete nonsense and that it's unhealthy.

When we actually got to the pap smear, she didn't give me any warning or anything, she just shoved a cold, metal, unlubricated, speculum into me and went for it. She said I should be fine since I'm sexually active and "used to it". She asked if I was straight and I said yes and she said "Oh good" as if she'd be so disappointed if I were gay or bi. She also said she's glad I've only had one sexual partner because "girls your age are usually fast."

I'm a black woman with natural hair and she asked me if it's all my real hair. I said yes and she said wow it's so long and started messing with it 🙄 I really do not want to go back there. I'm not sure how often you re supposed to go back but I definitely need to find a new OB before my next one.