Family Drama

I’ve posted a while back about my husband’s step parents (my in laws) and how disappointed we were when we told them we were expecting around week 6. My husband things the world of them since they took him in when his real father wasn’t around. So my husband surprised them with a bottle of champagne that said “only great parents get promoted to grandparents” during dinner and his step mom shouted “you’re going to be a grandpa” to his step dad and then said “I don’t want the baby calling me grandma.” They both said congrats but there was no hug or well wishes. Felt like they were congratulating us on a job promotion instead. Then the step mom said “we figured this was coming that you two would get pregnant, after all, you have four nephews” then she just looked at me. What the hell is that supposed to mean???

Anyway, fast forward and I am now almost 14 weeks. They have not inquired about us or the baby, have not been to ultrasounds or visited us once. The step mom asked via text back on like week 8 how her “grand baby” was and if I was eating lots of vegetables. My husband responded and said baby is fine and never heard anything else. They have been on fb regularly posting pics of their dogs and the ribbons its won, posting pics of alcohol, and pics of when they went to Africa but have not talked to us about the baby. The step mom text my husband over the weekend and was talking about her dog winning ribbons that weekend then after 5 minutes texting about the dogs, she stopped texting. Didn’t ask us how we were, ask about the baby, or even ask how my husbands birthday went since they missed it when they went on their safari. At this point, I told my husband I don’t want to see them anymore including holidays and I don’t want them around our baby. I’m approaching the weeks I will be able to find out the gender and I don’t want them there when we find out (not like they would ask to come but my husband would invite them).

They are very selfish, stand-offish people that never had kids of their own. His step dad even got a vasectomy so he wouldn’t have kids. Makes me wonder what he thinks of adopting my husband? Anyway, I am deeply hurt and angry with them because I see how much this bothers my husband. Personally just me, I would never speak to them again. But I know it’s not that easy. I’m sure I’ll get a few comments on here about communicating this to them but I’ve watched them manipulate my husband when he’s voiced his concerns to them and in the end my husband is the one who feels guilty and they never apologize. I really need some advice on what to do. I feel like our families opinions are biased so I need to know if I’m overreacting... help! No nasty comments please.