Hesitant

So I’ve been dating this guy since last November. Everything has been great. He asked me if I wanted to move in with him being that I’m there everyday anyway.

I haven’t moved in. Ever since he asked me to move in I’m starting to see he doesn’t find value in “decorating” or sees no purpose in buying furniture.

His couches are terribly old. You sit and you sink to the coils. His bed is old. He doesn’t even have sheets just a comforter blanket that’s heavily worn down.

Nothing matches in his house.

Anyway I told him I can’t live like that. I see value in buying things that aren’t worn out and I like my home to look and feel like home.

So his response was “if you want to change things I’m not spending money.” Which I get to a point. He’s complacent I’m not. I love to progress in life. Wether it be in jobs, cars, etc.

I told him if I decide to move in i can’t and won’t be the only one investing in the house and he wasn’t happy with my response.

I don’t know if this is a deal breaker for me. Say we do get more serious and eventually get married and I become a stay at home mom. What am I going to do when I want something. Something small like my nails done, or hair done or need my gym membership paid? If it’s not valuable to him then I can’t have those things...?? I’m afraid that I’ll be living in some else’s shadow.

I voiced this to him and he said I’d have to convince him to spend his money.

I don’t know how I feel about having to convince someone all the time or me being the only one spending to make our home look nice.

Any advice?