Tearing?

Question

I know i’d get better info on the internet or a doctor, but i want to know from personal experience...
any tips during pregnancy to reduce tearing?
any tips to reduce it during birth?
and if I do tear how long should I expect until the pain goes? how long until I can sit/walk/bathe/bend without any issues?
i’m just so scared of it and i’m only in my first trimester, I did the mistake of reading about it omg so freaked out 😭😭😭

Answer

I had 3 bad tears which were all internal. I had them because my baby was born quickly so there really wasn’t anything I could have done to prevent them. I didn’t have any external tears - it was recommend by my midwife to do perineal massage during my pregnancy to help reduce the risk of this. I didn’t do the massage a single time and didn’t need to be cut and didn’t tear 🤷🏻‍♀️
In terms of healing, I’m 12 weeks postpartum now and still a little sore down there (during sex,  otherwise I’m okay). I’d say I felt more able to move without so much pain after 3 or so days, but the witching took a few weeks to dissolve. I would say I’m still healing now though; it’s a long process!!

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Doing kegel exercises can help reduce tearing. I did them throughout each pregnancy and only needed like 2 stitches. And I wasnt sore after delivery.

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I was terrified of 2 things during pregnancy:
Pooping
Tearing
Lol 😂 nothing you can really do... if you’re meant to tear you will. 
I did and really the first few days are the worst but after it’s not that bad.

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I labored down for a while and didn’t have pain relief, so I felt everything and was able to feel what I was doing. I think that helped. I didn’t tear.

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I had a second degree tear and honestly I was way more uncomfortable from hemorrhoids and being constipated for the first four days after I gave birth than I was from the stitches. It was worst when I would go to the bathroom, the pressure hurt a lot if I sat down for more than a minute and it stung a little when I peed but the peri bottle and dermoplast really helped with that. By far the worst thing for me was the first poop after giving birth, other than that it was just a really tender swollen feeling down there for the first couple of days. After I managed to poop the pain went away pretty fast, nothing a little Tylenol and/or Motrin couldn’t deal with.

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I had a second degree tear and I was sore for a day or two afterwards, but nothing outrageous and I actually expected to be in more pain than I was. You can ride the high of having a new baby for a long time. :)

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I tore a lot but not deeply. My stitches popped around week 3 so I had to start all over with healing. I think it was around week 6 before it stopped hurting but it was still really sensitive for another few weeks. I just took it easy, used numbing spray they gave me, and used ice packs. I showered normally (first shower being a few hours after birth) without problem.

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I did perennial massage and had a “natural” birth which is supposed to help lessen tearing because you can feel how to push or something... well my daughter came out with her head tilted to one side and her arm wrapped around her face... she was like bracing herself against my pelvis and preventing herself from coming out. So I had a 2nd degree tear. I’m 2 weeks and 2 days PP and it’s not bad. The swelling was a weird feeling but it went away fast. All in all it hasn’t been nearly as bad as I had feared. Post partum healing was the thing I was most worried about and I have been pleasantly surprised.

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Look up perineal massage. Some say it helps. 
If you do tear, healing will depend on the severity. I had a second degre tear and felt healed after 3-4 weeks. I could sit and walk slowly right away but stairs were difficult at first. Take it easy and give yourself time to heal. I also recommend pads coated with aloe and then frozen (look up padcicles).

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I did absolutely nothing to prepare for labor or delivery. I didn’t tear, rip, or need to be cut. In fact, I felt amazing after!

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