Putting to sleep at night....sleeping through the night?

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So my little guy has still been rocked to sleep every night :/ it just breaks my heart to hear him cry so I pick him back up every time and do it again until he lets me put him down. It usually doesn’t take too crazy long...maybe 15 minutes tops? Anyway, all my coworkers are staying I need to start sleep training. He still wakes up throughout the night but I realized it’s not because he’s hungry- it’s because he wakes up and is alone and cries for me to rock him back again. He was sick last week so I let him sleep In bed with us and he slept all the way through the night because he was with us. But anyway, what sleep training method worked for everyone? Are your babies sleeping through the night? How did it happen? I was reading up on Ferber- anyone tried that? Anyway I am clueless- just let me know whatever you did or whatever worked for you or any feedback!

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I agree with the other commenter that your coworkers aren’t the ones dealing with your baby at night so you’re going to have to figure out what works for you. 
My daughter has slept through the night since a little before 3 months old (give or take a few nights if she’s sick etc). She’s slept in her crib in her own room since night one (it’s straight down the hall so made it easy to do). When she was young we’d always rock her to sleep too before putting her in her crib. Once she was in her crib I’d stand there a minute or so with my hand on her so she knew I was still there while she fell back to sleep. Now we don’t rock her but she falls asleep laying in our bed and then my husband carries her to her room. We are still doing the hand on her for at least 30 seconds while she gets comfy and falls back to sleep. 
There are times she wakes up and will cry a bit but she usually is able to calm herself down. You can hear it in her cry if she means business or if she’s just sleepy fussing. When she’s crying crying we will go in and rub her back while we shush her and almost always it gets her back to sleep within a few minutes. Sometimes though it doesn’t and we just pick her up and bring her back to our bed again and start the process over.

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We did Ferber! Loved it. It worked great for us. It took 3 nights and then no more problems. 
The thing is you have to know your baby and their limits. The first night you check on them every 3-7 minutes if they are crying. Each night you let them cry a bit longer. 
My LO never crys for more than about 7 minutes. If she goes longer than that or starts a real upset cry I go “ fix” (rocking her, pacifier, putting her in my bed, medicine because her mouth probably hurts) 
Different methods work for everyone family. It sounds like you baby doesn’t know who to self soothe, so you need to help them learn.

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I just did the sleep sense program I loved it!! 3 days in and he only cried for 2 min. U can sit in the room beside crib if u want to too. Or u can leave the room. Depends what works for u. We were in the same boat with rocking to sleep or feeding to sleep and it was killing me. I think sooner or later sleep training in some form needs to be done. But it’s up to u momma!

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Little Ones has a guide for age groups. It’s not perfect, you do have to troubleshoot, but at some stage every program or consultant will suggest a form of crying it out. Now don’t take it how it sounds.. gentle crying it out. It’s where you as a parent are aware of when your baby is in distress or just wants attention/you to fall asleep, and so you “ignore” that type of crying for a very short period of time so that they learn not to do it cause you won’t come every single time. It’s a learned behaviour.
Now, my son’s form of attention cry is blood curdling screams and sobs because he has severe separation anxiety, so we can’t exactly do this for long at all. Maybe like 3-5 minutes before he goes hysterical?
So we are introducing providing our presence while he self settles at night... and for naps well we are still working on it. We still put him to sleep but we can transfer him without him waking up now whereas he used to ALWAYS wake. So baby steps.

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My two cents- your coworkers aren’t in your home at night. If they aren’t getting up with him, they don’t get to tell you how to parent. You do what’s best for your family. 
That being said, we have never done cry it out and my baby sleeps through the night. I just would wake her up a bit after rocking her before I put her in bed so she was used to putting herself back to sleep. I’m not sure how that applies now that our babies are growing up, but you do not have to do cry it out.

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I would look at the effects of sleep training. It can be detrimental. Definitely doesn't sit right with me.

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I do not have a rocking chair so ever since a newborn I would just feed and put back in the crib, so my LO has always preferred falling asleep on her own.  We have also used the Zipadee zip since 3 months old and knows that means it’s sleep time.  As soon as I zip her in she is asleep in minutes.

Putting to sleep at night....sleeping through the night?

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