I’m tired of being told I’m spoiled

Basically we’ve been together for about a year, we have a history blah blah blah. We used to be into BDSM but before I put up with a lot I wasn’t comfortable with because that’s the ONLY affection I got (over 4 years ago when we first dated). Now he is still into being rough but brings up how I “used to like him being rough” I still do like it just not all the time. The new birth control I’m on makes me a moody cunt and he keeps saying I’m lashing out and being a brat towards him but I honestly don’t see it. He thinks because every time I say “I want this” I actually mean it. Everybody wants things it doesnt mean everyone gets them or that I want him to buy it. I grew up poor, came home from running away from my abusive father POOR. When I came back to my home state we got back together and he has bought me a lot of stuff mind you I did not ask for ANYTHING I am very grateful but I never begged or pleaded for him to buy me anything. Most of it is clothes because I came back with what I could fit in a suit case and none of it was business casual. I really don’t get it why is he being like this. I’m not a bad person.