EDIT...Marriage advice! Please

So, I've been with my husband for 2 years now. It's always been kinda rocky, but it's just getting worse. He throws divorce at me almost every week, says he wants me to leave and not come back. Then, when I give him what he clearly just asked for, I'll start packing my things, then he'll say I'm breaking my promise (marriage vows) by packing up and trying to leave. He'll say I never cared for him and I don't love him because I'm packing, but he literally just said he wants a divorce and doesn't wanna be with me anymore. Then he starts crying and saying I'm the one that's leaving so I'm the one that wants it. It really doesn't make any sense.

We have an almost 11 month old. He claims that ever since our child was born, I replaced him with our child. He says I'm not the same anymore, but honestly, I'm not any different, theirs just a baby now that has to be taken of. He claims we don't do anything anymore. I'm a SAHM by the way. He works around 60 hours a week and we're just getting by with that. Theirs no extra money for anything. He says I don't ask to go do stuff with him and that I don't spend time with him. Which is untrue.

I ask him to go do things with me. He doesn't wanna do it or he complains about doing it. But I go with him whenever he wants to go fishing or to a store he likes. I cook dinner, we eat together. Afterwards, we watch tv together and play with the baby, then we go to bed. I thought that counted as spending time together. We hardly got out to eat, because he claims we don't have the money(he also doesn't like going out to eat) we don't go to the movies because of the money issue(he also doesn't like going to the movies). He complains I don't clean enough. I do the dishes and laundry everyday. The house is not spotless, but I have an almost 11 month old that I'm chasing around all day. My child only takes 2 naps a day. That's the only time I have to get anything done. She only sleeps 30 minutes to an hour each nap. And I'm sorry, but I like to take some of that time to relax for a bit. He thinks because I'm a SAHM I need to have everything cleaned and he shouldn't have to do it when he gets home from work, but I work to. Being a mom is a job and harder than he thinks. I do all the feedings and all the diaper changes. Even when he's home, I'm still the one doing all the feedings and diaper changes while he goes to the store, goes hunting, or goes fishing. He probably feeds and changes a diaper once a month.

We were invited to a Thanksgiving dinner that Saturday after Thanksgiving. My family from out of town invited us. I don't usually spend Thanksgiving with them, but theirs some personal things going on and it'll be a family members last Thanksgiving, so they wanted to get together one last Thanksgiving. He decided he didn't want to go, but said it would be okay that me and our child went. Now he's saying we don't include him or care about him because we're going and we're leaving him all alone. He says were not actually spending Thanksgiving with him(which we are) Thanksgiving is a Thursday. We'll be with him all day that day. We're not leaving till friday morning. And he was invited to go. But he says he has to work that Saturday( which I believe is false. He's never had to work the friday and Saturday after Thanksgiving). He thinks if he doesn't want to go, I shouldn't go either. But just because he doesn't want to go, doesn't mean I don't get to go and spend some time with my family.

I just need some advice. I don't know what to do. I'm on my last straw here.

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Thank y'all so much for the comments. I have been thinking for a while that he possibly has an undiagnosed disorder. He's had these issues all his life according to his grandparents. His father died when he was 6 years old and he even told me that everything changed for him after that. I've told him before that I think he needs to see a therapist. He got offended when I said that. He'll never do any type of counseling or go see a doctor. He doesn't see anything wrong with his actions. I've literally done everything he's ever asked me to do, because I thought it would make things better, but even though I've given him everything, it still isn't enough. I've tried, I'm still trying. I don't want to give up. He's done lots of hurtful things to me, but I so badly want our marriage to work, because I love him. When things are good, they're great, but when they're bad, it's absolutely awful.