Husbands porn addiction

So my husband of 4 years was addicted to porn, dont get me wrong, I enjoy it every now an then but his addiction was causing him to miss work, disappear for hours hiding down some random road or bathroom stall, and I recently had given him the choice to get help or I left. It wasnt the porn that made me uncomfortable but his dedication to it, the multiple hours a day he spent on it, the fact he was about to lose his job over it and the fact that he spent more time with himself an his phone than me. But now, it feels like everytime we have sex, theres no love behind it. Its almost like he seen so many pornos that, he acts them out every time we have sex. Dont get me wrong, I enjoy it from time to time but every single time? He wants me to be like the girls in the videos he watched an do things Im not really comfortable doing. Ive tried to express this to him an my boundaries but he doesnt seem to get it. Hes tried to guilt me into 3sums which is a big NO for me and random weird things like him pissing on me and I just cut him off right there. He got the help, he doesnt view porn as much as he was, but I just feel like a substitute for that addiction an theres no real "love making" its more like he treats me like some random whore then goes about his day. I assume he got all his "skills" from these porn movies and probably thinks this is what women like but honestly, it has me thinking I need to just give up. Hes tried so hard but were just not on the same level sexually and its tearing our marriage apart because he cant satisfy me and I cant him. Ive tried talking to him an seeing if we had any common interests in the bedroom but we just dont. He likes some extreme things and I like some random things but as I said his goes pretty deep and I just cant handle anymore. Sex feels more like a job with him than a pleasure. Im so lost.