Is it worth it?

Is dieting and losing the baby weight worth it if it makes you a hangry and less patient mother? I wish general society saw the behind the scenes cost of quality parenting when you are starving yourself back into a mental picture of what you 'should' look like. Itll never happen on a grand scale but I know for sure the next time I see a mama with an extra 20+ lbs I'm not gonna think "you really need to start trying" and instead think theres a mama who decided it was more important to have the energy to play with her kids then to place her self-value on a scale number.

Not trying to call anyone out or start an argument, certainly not shaming anyone as I myself dont have the self esteem to quit dieting, I guess I'm just venting my anger with myself and unfair society idealism.