Marriage is hard*Update

As I'm setting here the day after our first year anniversary drinking coffee it hit me. Marriage is hard. The first year of marriage is supposed to be the hardest. I remember all the heartbreaking moments we have shared this year. The moments where I pack all my things and was prepared to leave. The fights, the tears, the yelling. But then I remember that laughing, the pure joy, the making love, the kisses after the fighting. It was all worth it. For those of you who are about to get married just remember, you will fight, you will want to leave, and you may actually leave. And that's okay. Marriage is no fairytale. Its ugly and hard, but its also beautiful. Its waking up to the person you loved so much you committed your whole life to. You will regret things but you will also cherish the little things. Like just him holding you and dancing with you in the kitchen. The little kisses and jokes you share together. Those are the things you must hold onto when things feel like they are falling apart. I can't believe how fast our first year has passed. I can't believe God has blessed me with a love I never thought was possible. I wish all of you the best in your upcoming marriages. And remember one thing that has helped us when things get rough. No man can come between something that God has brought together ❤❤❤

* First of all I would like to apologize for my post coming off as this is a fact...you will fight, want to leave, and may leave. That is not the case for everyone. What I meant by posting this is that just because you fight, pack your bags and want to leave/leave doesn't mean you or your marriage is a failure. Life is hard, marriage is hard work, and for everyone its different. We have faced a lot our first year. And some people don't have to go through the things we have. But that doesn't mean my marriage is a failure or that I'm a failure. It means I'm human. And if you are going through a difficult time right now in your marriage I want you to know that you're not and you're marriage is not a failure.

Now I do want to address a few things. I discovered this through counseling that its normal to fight with your spouse. Now that doesn't mean everyone fights but if you do your not crazy. And no I'm not talking about throwing things or physical abuse. Fighting for me is heated arguments. I don't want any of you to be going through physical or mental abuse.

Now I know I will get backlash for this, but I'm going to say it anyway. I was extremely disappointed at a lot of comments. I would have hoped that yall would have seen that this was supposed to be a good post. I realize that I said that we fought and that I packed my things but its like some of you stopped reading the post right there. Yall didn't see where I said that all of the fights we had and the packing of my things didn't matter, because in the end I didn't leave. I didn't leave because I am with the person I love, the person I believe God designed for me. I am NOT perfect. I have my own issues and experiences that make me how I am. And not everyone will have to go through what I have(and I hope yall never do).But if you are going through a difficult time in your marriage/relationship and feel like you're a failure I want you to know that you're not. Your human and life sucks sometimes. But if you truly believe in yourself and your marriage/relationship then you will be just fine ❤