Do you feel a bond with baby during pregnancy?

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Hi ladies, just wondering how does everyone feel exactly. I’m 30 weeks with my first baby girl, but I worry that I’m not as connected as I should be? I don’t know, it’s hard to picture for me what exactly is in there, and I don’t feel like I have a strong bond with her. I don’t really talk to her or anything like that because I feel awkward doing it. I’m hoping that when she’s here I will feel differently. Does anyone else feel that way? I see some people post things like “I’m obsessed, already so in love” yada yada. I’m aware that they might just be putting it on, but it kind of makes me wonder if I’m feeling as i should be.
Update:
Such a relief to know I’m not alone, thank you ladies for sharing your stories! I love this app for this reason. that puts my mind at ease. I will be hoping for a strong bond once my little babe is here.

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I find this a difficult thing to discuss and I love my daughter more than anything in the world now but honestly even after she was first born she felt like a complete stranger to me. I knew she relied on me to care for her and I did but it took time for me to feel that bond. Giving birth is a crazy thing and I don’t know if it’s because I didn’t have to labour because it was a scheduled c-section by it definitely took a few weeks before I started to feel connected to her

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I don't feel particularly bonded to my babies while they're in the womb. I don't talk to my baby or play music for my belly or anything like that. And after my first was born, I didn't even have that immediate 'in love' feeling that a lot of women get. I definitely felt protective of her, but not bonded in a way I expected. Honestly, I think that's just how it is for some of us. They're brand new people, and we don't know who they are or who they will be, so we just have to get to know each other. And for first time moms, there's the added obstacle of just figuring out how to be a mother. It can be a lot. Momming is hard and we all come at it differently, so give yourself the space to feel how you feel. 😊

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In the same boat, been told by many caring mothers that it’s normal not to feel a bond with baby up until he/she is about 12 weeks old. Everyone’s different, especially as a first timer trying to make the best of a new journey!

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Yes I feel a strong bond. 
The fact that you don't doesn't mean anything is wrong with you, especially since it's your first.
With that said what you've described can be an indication of upcoming post partum depression. If you can, maybe have a counsellor lined up just in case that is something you develop after baby is born.

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No I feel the same. I partially think it’s because of my two other losses though because first baby I was immediately head over heels in love at first ultrasound but I only mention that to show what I’ve gone through. So I’m 100% super ready and “happy” for her but feel the same way you do and THATS OKAY! Everyone bonds differently. I’m sure when she’s here it’ll
change for us even if it takes a little time. 
I was actually telling my husband that it doesn’t feel real. Like my stomach is big sure and I feel her in there but I havent been able to fully process that there’s a whole ass baby in there that’ll soon be ours lol. I was considering a 3D scan to help it seem more real buuuuut $$$. Guess we’ll wait for the surprise at birth lol

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Nah, not till they come out lol

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I don't feel particularly bonded to my babies while they're in the womb. I don't talk to my baby or play music for my belly or anything like that. And after my first was born, I didn't even have that immediate 'in love' feeling that a lot of women get. I definitely felt protective of her, but not bonded in a way I expected. Honestly, I think that's just how it is for some of us. They're brand new people, and we don't know who they are or who they will be, so we just have to get to know each other. And for first time moms, there's the added obstacle of just figuring out how to be a mother. It can be a lot. Momming is hard and we all come at it differently, so give yourself the space to feel how you feel. 😊

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I don't feel particularly bonded to my babies while they're in the womb. I don't talk to my baby or play music for my belly or anything like that. And after my first was born, I didn't even have that immediate 'in love' feeling that a lot of women get. I definitely felt protective of her, but not bonded in a way I expected. Honestly, I think that's just how it is for some of us. They're brand new people, and we don't know who they are or who they will be, so we just have to get to know each other. And for first time moms, there's the added obstacle of just figuring out how to be a mother. It can be a lot. Momming is hard and we all come at it differently, so give yourself the space to feel how you feel. 😊

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I don't feel particularly bonded to my babies while they're in the womb. I don't talk to my baby or play music for my belly or anything like that. And after my first was born, I didn't even have that immediate 'in love' feeling that a lot of women get. I definitely felt protective of her, but not bonded in a way I expected. Honestly, I think that's just how it is for some of us. They're brand new people, and we don't know who they are or who they will be, so we just have to get to know each other. And for first time moms, there's the added obstacle of just figuring out how to be a mother. It can be a lot. Momming is hard and we all come at it differently, so give yourself the space to feel how you feel. 😊

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It took me a very long time after my son was born to really really love him maybe 3 months? To feel super close and like I knew him. Second time around I’m in love with new baby already. It’s hard to know what to expect your first time especially

Do you feel a bond with baby during pregnancy?

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