So with my first pregnancy I didn’t have a baby shower because I went into premature labor and had the baby about a week before the baby shower was scheduled. I was ok with the idea of having one with my first pregnancy because my sister really wanted to throw me a shower and I had friends from work I wanted to invite. Well I haven’t heard from any of my work friends since I quit so I could stay by my sons side in the NICU, 2 months, and actually have time to get used to having a newborn once we got to take him home. So my sister wants to throw me a shower but it would just be family. Now I’m close with my immediate family and my grandparents, but when it comes to aunts and cousins I’m not close with them at all because I only saw them a couple times a year growing up and even less now that I split holidays with my husbands family. So I would feel really awkward being the center for attention for a bunch of women I only really make small talk with. My husband and I eloped for pretty much the same reason. I know my mom and sister will be disappointed but it’s my pregnancy and I would rather not spend 2 hours being uncomfortable.