Sex life 🙄

My husband and I have been together for 8 years total, married for 1.5, with 2 gorgeous kids. Our dating years were rocky, split up a few times, tried dating other people but we always came back to each other. Our sex life was good for a long while. We experimented with plenty of stuff cuz that's what he wanted and I went along with it. I've had issues for quite a while where I need lube every time we have sex. I just dont like having sex anymore, I dont have an exact answer why. Maybe it's a medical issue, or the idea of me not getting any time to myself because I do everything around our house + take care of kids while he plays on the PC after work and most weekends, or that he takes to long and I get to sore. But we argue about it on a weekly basis. He doesnt understand what I deal with and it's so frustrating. But I have sex anyway every other day just so we dont argue. I'm in the process of seeing a doctor for the medical issue and not being aroused but I dont feel optimistic about them having the answer because I think it's a problem within each other. Dont get me wrong I love my husband, but maybe I'm just tired of the stuff he does/doesn't do I dunno if anyone has advice or any comments, I think I just wanted to write this down and vent.